Circumcision has been a touchy subject since the moment I found out I was pregnant. We absolutely disagree about what should be done. I quoted several research documents, including the recommendations from various health organizations stating that routine infant circumcision was considered a cosmetic surgery and is not necessary for newborns. He retaliated by calling me closed minded for not considering circumcision as an option. He wants the baby to look like him. I argued that nobody is going to be glancing in the diaper area and saying "awww, he has your penis", because frankly, that'd be just plain weird. I asked him to simply consider the idea of leaving the baby alone, maybe do a little research of his own before making a decision, and he agreed to look into it more if it turned out we were having a boy.
His research turned out to be quizzing friends and family members on their opinions, which, not surprisingly given the generation, are all pro-circ. One even suggested to him that he sneak away and have it done without my knowledge!!!
This past weekend took the cake. We had gotten together with his family for a dinner, and out of nowhere he asks what they think about it, and aren't I weird for being so obsessed about a body part I don't even have. I did my best to argue my points, but they were all shot down with "he'll get made fun of", and "I know x person and x person who had to get it done as adults" and "just get it overwith when he's a baby, they don't feel pain that young" and "it's gross". Keeping in mind that my intact son from a previous marriage is sitting at the table absorbing all of this trash.
He waited until I had left the table to take the kids to the washroom to bring it up a second time, ridiculing me behind my back to his family one last time.
Did I mention we're having a girl??? And have known this for weeks?? Why he even decided to bring it up at all is beyond me.
I am so angry and hurt over this. I just don't even know what to say to him. Five months pregnant, and alone.