Hi all... it's been a really long time since I've posted on this site, but I really really need some input from other mamas on this.
I knew my ex smoked. Not while we were married or living together with the kids, but long after. As far as I knew, it was always OUTSIDE (of the car and his apartment). Recently I heard my kids (ages 10, 8 and 6) talking about how they packed their dad's hookah with tobacco for him... him saying something about it being traditional in some culture somewhere for kids to do so. I don't doubt that it might be, I have no idea to be honest. I do know for sure that it's not a part of HIS culture, so this is a choice he is making, not some deeply ingrained cultural habit.
Now I generally don't ask my kids about the comings and goings of my ex, but I did ask them if he smoked in the house while they were there... and I guess he does. Not cigarettes, which he apparently smokes outside, but a hookah.
I am not okay with sending my kids to a house where there is smoking, period. It is his house and he is welcome to smoke in it if he likes, but not around my kids. I just didn't expect this to be an issue between my ex and myself, and I don't really know how to approach it with him.
Just background info... been separated/divorced since January of 2006. I have sole legal/physical custody.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.