I told my mom a story about how I was in a medical clinic waiting for DH to be done with his appt and I breastfed DD. I was trying to cover us up with the tail of my sling and stuff but we were both sweating, so I decided to just stop with it. I had pulled my boob out of the top of my fitted tee I had on and so most of it was showing...I felt so proud!!!! It was the first time I didn't feel self conscious about bfing in public. DD is two months now and my first baby.
So I told my mom this story and she leaves me a message today complaining about me and one of the things she said was that I was skanky / trashy for pulling out my boobs in public and no one wants to see my "big boobs" and I should be going in a dressing room or out in the car!!! (which is what she used to do btw)
I often do bf in the car and I will use a bfing room if provided (like at babys r us or the pediatricians.)
I sent my mom an e-mail with the Florida law for bfing and told her I would be breastfeeding any time, anywhere and that was the end of it. (I also sent her more comments than that. I am done letting her bring negativity into my life and family.)
Yesterday, I was at a friends house and a little boy kept coming into the room I was bfing in to look at some toys and his mother got embarrassed and said she understood I would want my privacy because she never felt comfortable bfing in public and when she lived in Italy she was always shocked because she would see moms just pull out their breasts and feed their babies in restaurants and such.
I told her that I was bfing in here just in case other people wouldn't be comfortable with it (lots of kids around) and that I thought that if I breastfeed in public maybe some other young moms will see me and think "Hey, maybe I CAN do that too!" She said "Hmm, I never thought of it that way. That's true."
My mom is very toxic (I have lots of threads talking about it), but I am wondering what other people do?
I feel annoyed that our culture is so backward that people might get offended seeing someone breastfeed!
I never see anyone bfing here in Florida and I think I've only ever noticed moms breastfeeding in public maybe 3 times my entire life. I feel like I kind of *want* other people to see what I am doing because we need more moms modeling this so people don't just assume they will be bottle feeding and see breastfeeding being done in real life. I don't *want* to make anyone else uncomfortable, but I do believe every mom who breastfeeds in public is doing a good thing, even if it does make someone uncomfortable because they never ever see it.
So what do you do?