I've posted a similar question earlier, but I wanted to try to clarify what I am trying to get at in this post. Here goes.
Background: We have two boys, a 3 yo and a 6 month old. We have a nanny. Currently, the nanny picks DS1 up from his Montessori school at 11:30 am each day, then spends the afternoon with both boys (she has the baby all day).
The issue: It is time to re-enroll in DS1's school for next year.
The problem: A nanny plus preschool is very very expensive.
I love our current situation, but DH is questioning the value of sending DS1 back to school next year. His preschool costs ~$800/month. Our nanny has an early childhood education background, and has worked in daycare and preschool settings before, so DH thinks that we should utilize her background for next year and have her teach DS1.
DS1 will be 3.5 - 4.5 next school year. We could always send him to preschool during the 2012-2013 academic year since he doesn't start kindy until 2013.
BUT, I am freaking out. I don't want to feel like I'm depriving DS1 of an opportunity to develop a love of learning and to flourish. And our nanny is great, but she doesn't understand the Montessori teaching philosophy at all. Her approach is much more mainstream (which isn't necessarily a bad thing, but I do love Montessori).
In retrospect, I would have rather have kept him home this year and sent him next year. But, I don't know how I feel about keeping my 4 year old at home all day. I fear that he will be missing out.
Do other moms pay for a nanny and preschool? What kind of sacrifices would you make in order to do so?