Please tell me I'm not the only one or losing my mind... just dont tell me it's temporary!
WAY T.M.I., I'm sure, but I'm curious...
Lots of different reasons why sex can be so fantastic for some pregnant women. Increased blood flow in the reproductive areas is one reason, and hormonal changes that are creating more cervical fluid and wetness. But don't let my technical analysis get in the way!
I read somewhere a few years ago (I don't think I can find it easily) that women who have higher oxytocin levels in the first trimester have some extra good outcome for pregnancy and/or birth (I can't remember exactly what it is--how's that for vague?) Anyway, when you have an orgasm you produce oxytocin, so that's why I bring this up. More orgasms=more oxytocin=goodness all around.
For me, it was one of my first "signs" something might be up: with DS, I think the increased blood flow etc, actually made sex worse, it was very uncomfortable at the start, but was fine after a bit. With this baby, sex has been great, the extra blood flow makes things way more pleasurable.
And the change in both cases was almost immediately after conception. Though TBH, I have been too tired to really even think about DTD for the past couple weeks. Looking forward to getting some more energy,maybe in the 2nd Trimester.
We didn't have sex for a couple weeks after I ovulated, because I felt bloated and crampy and super tired (jet lag + hormones). We've started again lately. I don't think I have an increased sex drive from normal, but it's definitely bounced back from the first couple weeks. One interesting TMI thing is that after I O (sex O not ovulation O) I have kinda a half nice half painful glowy cramp for a while. I hope it's not any threat to the wee babe.
I just want to reassure him that I value, love, and respect him. I want to stay connected as much as possible before a little bundle of screaming neediness reduces our "alone" time.
It's just a really, really awesome bonus that my body is going through some very enjoyable changes. Hahaha
Congrats to al of you mamas who love sex now, I am in that other percentage of mams who 1. has no sex drive at all and 2. sex is downright painful for me. It really sucks, probably more for DH who has a desire to have sex. My midwife said it is something having to do with my cervix becoming raw when i am pregnant. It is terrible and If i could not have sex for nine months, plus the 6 weeks after, plus about 3 more months i would be happy.