Re: Re: Ever feel guilty for being so "fertile"
|Originally posted by anothermama
My friends I know who have problems with fertility have problems in other parts of their lives too......they are stress cases no matter what, and I'll be honest, it seems to me like the more pressure you put on your body to reproduce, it seems like the more it says "WHOA!!!!!!!!!!!!! But on the brakes!".
Everyone I know who stresses out about it has problems with it. Everyone I know who just *lives* and lets nature happen seems to get preggo when they want.
Yeah, stress is all it is about. : Cause if I relaxed I would get pregnant. Guess what? I WAS RELAXED FOR THE FIRST YEAR OF TRYING. And I still didn't get pregnant. I didn't even get stressed about it until the SECOND YEAR of trying.
For you to say that it is JUST stress is the most dismissive and hurtful things I have ever heard. It gives credence to the "it's all in your head" argument that so many people love to shove down our throats. Do you know that most infertile women don't look for a remedy for infertility until way into it because they are told just to relax and all will be fine??? By their own doctors. What total BS to tell a woman with a MEDICAL problem to just relax. Kind of like telling a cancer patient to just relax, and it will go away.
Stress interefering with fertility is more myth than anything. If it really interefered as much as you say it does, how do you explain women in war zones conceiving? or abusive relationship? Or as a result of incest? Think they were relaxed and stress free?
In the future, please think about a comment like that, and what it means to some of us. Because that was honestly one of the most hurtful things I have ever heard.
I will concede that stress will influence my hubby. His sperm count drops to nothing when he is stressed. But that also has to do with the way he eats, and how he cares for himself when he is stressed. But even at my most stressed, my cycles behave exactly the same damn way as they do when I am relaxed and calm.
I will also concede that stress can affect your relationship with your hubby, and that can lead to no sex - which will obviously not result in pregnancy.
But to blow infertility off as a, "Just relax." What a load of horse you know what.