My DH and I had a little fight the other night because he thought it was okay to get in my 2 yr olds face and yell at him for doing something wrong. Also every little thing my son does wrong, my DH wants to spank him for (he doesn't actually do it, but says I should give him a spanking, or threatens DS with one). I keep trying to tell him he's just a little boy. I sure as heck wouldn't want someone yelling in my face, I know I hated it when my Dad did it. And while I was spanked as a child, it wasn't for every little thing.
I know I am guilty at yelling too (although not in his face). My son doesn't listen well, throws things, jumps on the couch, etc. I guess typical toddler behavior but I know its starting to become a struggle between us three and him not listening.
So, how can I get my 2yr old to listen or am I expecting too much from him? I have tried spanking, time outs, yelling, negotiating and none of it seems to work. Is there a good book me and my DH can read about how to discipline without yelling?