Wanting a baby as a single mommy

[hotpinkdoula]

I want a baby so so badly. I have 2 children from previous relationships. I have the baby bug. I see pregnant woman and just feel this desire, deep deep desire. I am not in a place at the moment to have a child. I am pursuing my education, but things will be different in about a years time. I am not sure it will happen then, but I am considering alternative options as well as the more traditional ones. The hard part? Im in a relationship with a great man. He says he would like to have children or so he thinks. He is great with mine, but he is not sure when that will make sense to bring it to reality. We are serious about eachother but I did tell him that I was planning on more children. Any other single mommies out there or women in similar situation? Just looking for some perspective or commiseration....

[Pumpkin_Pie]

Hi there,  I am a single mama to a nearly 4 year old boy and I have the baby bug so badly it physically *hurts* some days.  It probably doesn't help that I am about to turn 37 and am feeling like I am running out of time to have one.  I know I have at least a few more years, but I am getting worried that I will have a hard time TTC, so I would love to try now.  I am not in a relationship, so I would have to use a donor.   We are low income, but I am doing better than I have in years financially.  We just moved to a fantastic community with loads of support, so I know that when I finally do meet someone and get preggo, that things will work out. 

It is so hard to wait though!

[hotpinkdoula]

I am in nursing school. I will be ready within the next 3 years for another baby. If by then there is no male prospect, I probably will be trying on my own...

[Pumpkin_Pie]

I have seriously considered trying on my own, but I worry about the stigma of being on any public assistance and having another child.  We are currently receiving food stamps, section 8 funding for our housing and are on Medicaid.  We are not receiving all that much financially each month from each of those programs, and my job pays well, is unbelievably flexible, and would allow me to bring my baby to work when I needed to, so I am very lucky.  I just can't wrap my head around using a donor quite yet.  Thinking about it though...

[brennatsi]

hotpinkdoula...

I was a single mom when I started dating my now-husband.  I started getting the baby bug so badly it was a physical ache!!  I felt like breathing through it-- like labor, lol!  We were together 3.5 years before our wedding, though, and in the end, I am so glad I waited!  The burning desire was still there and, five years later, our lives would be a LOT harder if we had rushed in.

Our bodies are meant to feel that way, but that is just one facet in the decision-making, you know?

And the knock-me-up sex was soooo worth it. 

Best of luck!!

[hotpinkdoula]

My BF and I talked about it yesterday. We still didnt 100% agree on a time line (which would seem sort of silly anyway) but it seems like baby might make sense at some point in the future. Im trying not to think about it much. Trying to focus on school and career and my kids and life. I cant stop thinking about nursing and birth and pregnancy and cloth diapers and baby wearing though. The cute little things they do, the developmental milestones. wanting and waiting is so hard.