Help! 2 yr old wakes EVERY HOUR all nite long....

[angomama]

He was night weaned about 6 months ago (thanks Dr Jay Gordon) and switched from cosleeping to his twin bed in his room a few months ago (I am pg and TIRED) and he was WAY to active and needy in bed always pulling at me.

He has been better at times, but no more than 2-3 hours of sleep on his own. He always needs DH or I to fall back asleep!

I am exhausted and so is DH. DH is a cancer survivor with low immune system and can';t handle all the night duties I wish he could and stay healthy.Right now we share the nights 1/2 each. And we are both barely functional.

We are using No cry sleep solution for toddlers and we have moved bedtime up by almost an hour to start at 6:30 and be asleep by 7:30. This is working GREAT! :)

He still seems tired and cranky, but we also just switched from a home daycare to the YMCA and from part time to full time.

Unfortunately this is all around the same time. :( Poor guy.  And we have been sick.

How can we encourage him not to need us EVERY hour at night? I am getting really resentful and SO tired that I am worried when I drive to work I am too tired to be driving!

We are trying some of the things in the book, but I can't see what is helping, it seems to be getting worse, but I think that is the transition issues????

Any thoughts or hope for us? DH and I are beyond feeling insane and both going to bed at 8:30 or so after less than an hour of chores and about 5 min together. It is getting to be too hard on our marriage and all of our health.

Thanks!!

TIRED MAMA

[Tattooed Hand]

Oh mama, that sounds so hard!

Sounds like there is alot going on with your little one. Change of daycare and additional hours is a big transition. My DD just began part time daycare 3 weeks ago and we are still transitioning. My DD still wakes up 2-3 times a night but it's not too big a deal because her twin bed is right next to our queen bed. I don't know what I would do if I had to get up and go to another room. I do know that when DD is sick (like we have both been the last 3 weeks) she is way more clingy and wakes up more. At those times (as well as bad teething nights) I bring her into the queen with me (so we both have room to spread out) and DH sleeps on the twin. I find that these are good ways of coping, especially in times of change.

I wish I had better advice to give. And I hope you get some more sleep soon. DD woke up every hour for 5 months straight before she learned to walk and I was about to loose it.

[LadyCatherine185]

big hugs mama! that sounds really rough. my DS woke every hour until i nightweaned him at 19 months old (jay gordon) while pregnant.. but then he started sleeping much better. I am so sorry that has not been the case for you.

have you looked into food allergies, reflux, or sensory issues? is he too cold at night by himself? could you put his mattress on the floor in your room?

[Wild Lupine]

I second looking into medical issues. Large adenoids and/or tonsils can interfere with sleeping, along with the other things LadyCatherine mentioned. Does he snore?

[angomama]

He snores sometimes and my sis is a physiotherapist and thinks he may have some sensory issues, but not sure what to do about that. It is a 6 mo + wait to be seen and assessed for this.

He has an appt with his doc on Monday about a swollen lymph node we are concerned about. I will get DH to ask about sleep issues.

Thanks all.

Hopefully tonite will be better! :(

[mkksmom]

My friends' toddler was like that and snored. She'd wake herself from the snoring. She had her tonsils and adenoids removed and started sleeping much better after that, so I agree. There could be something going on. (((Hugs)))

Do you have any friends or family that would give you just one night to catch up?