Has anyone gotten an answer from an accountant about whether this is allowable?
I did check out the IRS pubs and found this:
You can include in medical expenses the cost of the following procedures to overcome an inability to have children.
Procedures such as in vitro fertilization (including temporary storage of eggs or sperm).
Surgery, including an operation to reverse prior surgery that prevented the person operated on from having children.
There was no specific info about what fertility related stuff is disallowed.