Personally I don't think there is anything wrong with reading a book over cleaning. I used to have a lot of stress over that kind of thing, not anymore. We as moms have a lot of responsibilities that most people (especially those who don't value the role of a mom) realize. Sometimes just having a smile on your face at the end of the day is a big accomplishment. And honestly, if my choices are 1. to have a clean house but a crappy attitude or 2. a smile and a pile of dishes + laundry, I pick #2. I think it's better for my kids to see momma with a good attitude then a clean counter you know?
I am reading a book called the Power of a Positive Mom that went through all the responsibilities of a mother, the corresponding job title and pay. Over the course of a year a mom does the work of $400,000 worth of employement (I know that's not worded properly but I am soo about to make a pot of coffee and don't care to change it :) )
It is our society that says we have to have some kind of physical proof of our worth and value, but I think there is an absolutely priceless value of a mom who stays home to raise her kids.
Also, I have been going through our family's pictures this week, putting them into albums and one of the things I noticed that really shocked me, is that, even when I thought the house was a wreck, it didn't look bad in the pictures, at all! I think as moms we get overwhelmed doing the same things over and over again that we are just overwhelmed by it, and see the messes as more significant than they really are. A counter covered in last night's scraps, plates with crusty food on them, etc etc is horrendously gross and another 15 minutes of work for us moms, but to someone else it's really common, and not that horrible. If you take a pic and look back over the pic in a year, you will probably remember the stress it caused you and regret you had worried so much about it.
Yikes, I hope this is saying what I mean to say. My brain is not focusing right now.