My mother is upset and informed me she's trying not to be too excited. Here's the background...
I had #1 when I was 18. I was a very ignorant, typical teen mother, I stopped bf at 3 weeks and I worked almost full-time and was in fulltime college. My mother kept my daughter probably more than I did during that time. I had baby #2 when #1 was 18 months old, and my mom came and got #1 2-3 days a week for about a year. I bf #2 until she weaned herself and she did not go spend the night at grandma's for a long time.
5 years later, I had #3. My mom was working at this point and didn't have much to do with this child, also she was very high-needs and my mom seemed scared of her. As this daughter got older my mom didn't like her because of how she behaved. (adhd-like behavior, related to her being high-needs) It's pretty noticable she does not really like this child so much.
Ok now, I'm 34, I have for years regretted all the time I missed out on with #1. I regret lots of things and wish I'd had friends and family who were more supportive of AP as that's what I ended up doing with the next two babies. Here I'm pregnant, my mom is not working so was assuming I was going to let the baby stay with her alot like #1 did!! I tried to explain to her how I felt, how wrong it was for me to have done that way back then and I'd never do that again. That I was grown up and know better. She does not understand at all. Plus of course I will be breastfeeding this one also, there's no way I could even think of letting it be gone every week! My chests would suffer even if the baby did not!!
I do take it very personally that my mother did/does not like #3, but even if that was not an issue how could she expect I'd let a baby be away from me several times a month? We had talked about my past several times before and I'd always made it clear that I regretted my behavior.
I don't really expect any answers, as there aren't any, I just needed to get this off my chest.
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