I should have learned my lesson after posting a few times on Babycenter.com, but I didn't. I accepted an invite to a "Mommyhood" group on Facebook and it was a big mistake! Terrible for my blood pressure.
A woman posted that she was due soon with her second child and her 20 month old DS still woke up at night asking for a drink. She wanted advice about how to meet his needs while caring for a newborn at night as well.
The first person to respond said "He'll never sleep through the night if you keep giving him a drink. Stop cold turkey. When he wakes up, put him back in his bed without talking to him."
Seriously? I posted that it's normal to be thirsty at night and I would either leave a sippy for him or ask my husband to take over nighttime parenting with that child once the new baby arrived.
Of course this other woman said "It's just for comfort! He doesn't need it."
By this point I was pretty annoyed, so I said "Did I miss the memo that said we aren't supposed to comfort our babies and toddlers?"
To which she replied "Yes you did Tamera. Babying your kids will only make your life easier, it does nothing for them."
My final post was: Yeah I wouldn't want them to grow up expecting to have their needs met or anything. You know how a drink of water when you're thirsty can spoil a person. This group is obviously not the place for me. Thanks for the invite Erin. If anyone is interested in a style of parenting that isn't modeled after Romanian orphanages, I recommend http://www.mothering.com/
and I deleted myself.