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My dd got told to not wear her hair like that!

post #1 of 58
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She puts it all in a pony tail at the back and leaves a chunk of hair along the front/side that's NOT hanging in her face.  It looks nice. 

Yesterday the teacher said it's not appropriete  for class learning. 

But today was parent watching day and there were 3 other girls with a hunk of hair just like this and one girl was SUCKING the hanging hair!

Has anyone heard of this rule?

She's 10.  ANd doesn't have green hair.  No makeup no slutty clothes. And does not suck her hair.

post #2 of 58

That's just totally ridiculous.

post #3 of 58

I am guessing that the policy is in reaction to the girl-who-sucks-her-hair. Seems a bit extreme though...

post #4 of 58

I would firmly point out to the teacher the three other girls with their hair that way and ask why she's just picking on your daughter!

post #5 of 58

Meh.  Not something I get myself worked up about. 

 

And honestly I think saying other kids do it too just sounds petty and childish. For all you know they and/or their parents were told the same thing and are either ignoring or it may have just started. If you feel that strongly about this issue set up a meeting with teacher and ask to review the dress code requirements, keeping it focused on your own child.

post #6 of 58

I would firmly point out to the teacher that it's not up to her to decide how your daughter wears her hair. As I have done before and will do again should the situation arises. Unless someone thing is clearly a violation of the dress code, the teacher has no right to dictate what any child does with his or her hair.

post #7 of 58

Were you/she told *what* exactly was inappropriate about it? I'd ask. Not "like that" is not much to go on, it could mean anything.

post #8 of 58
Thread Starter 

This is what she typed to me:

 

No, her hair is not messy.  Part of her hair was pulled back today, with a section curled and loose in the front.  I thought she may have forgotten to pull it back with the rest of her hair, but that was not the case and though it was not a distraction for her, I would question the style for our learning environment.  I did not share that with her.

 

 

 

 

I am going to talk to the teacher today after school.  now!

post #9 of 58

Based on this post and some of your other ones I think you teacher is on a power trip.  KUP!

post #10 of 58

To me it sounds like the teacher is unhappy that your daughter is attempting to style her hair, not just pull it back for practicality.  I would not be happy with that level of involvement with my child's style/mode of dress.

post #11 of 58
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Yes I agree.  I chatted with her after school and she backed down.  :)

post #12 of 58

That's nice that it worked out. smile.gif

post #13 of 58

I'm glad it worked out!  BTW, did she ever realize your DD had her spa day?  ;)

post #14 of 58
Thread Starter 

hehe no she didn't even notice.  It's so natural looking. 

post #15 of 58

:)

post #16 of 58

is it curled with a curler/curling iron?

post #17 of 58
Thread Starter 

no.

post #18 of 58

hmm, just wondering, her reply made it sound as though it had been done with a curler, which might explain why she thought it was not appropriate...?

"No, her hair is not messy.  Part of her hair was pulled back today, with a section curled and loose in the front."

post #19 of 58
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I'm glad it worked out!  BTW, did she ever realize your DD had her spa day?  ;)

 

I was wondering that too! Is it normal for Waldorf classrooms to be so concerned about the appearance of the students? I can understand an aversion to logo and character clothing and accessories, but from what I've gleaned from your posts, it sounds like your school is pretty controlling about it--or is it just that teacher?

 

We're considering a Waldorf-inspired school for K next year, and one of the attractive things is that it isn't strict Waldorf. But that's also one of the drawbacks!

post #20 of 58
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Originally Posted by ecoteat View Post

I was wondering that too! Is it normal for Waldorf classrooms to be so concerned about the appearance of the students? I can understand an aversion to logo and character clothing and accessories, but from what I've gleaned from your posts, it sounds like your school is pretty controlling about it--or is it just that teacher?

 

We're considering a Waldorf-inspired school for K next year, and one of the attractive things is that it isn't strict Waldorf. But that's also one of the drawbacks!



I think they do pay attention to dress/styling that could be distracting from lessons - either to the class as a whole or to the particular child (for example, if they have their hair falling into their eyes the teacher may ask the parents to get their hair cut or wear something in their hair to keep it back).  I actually like this, that they care so much.  HOWEVER, I'm not saying that was the case in regards to OP, I couldn't really say and am only speaking from experiences I've seen.  

 

 

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