My DS is almost 10 months old and I "think" we are headed toward the 2 to 1 nap transition (he dropped his third nap around 5 months). Up until last week he was taking 1 1/2 to 2 hour naps twice a day. Then, suddenly, the morning nap became a battleground. We do a floor bed in his room and I could not get him down for his morning nap. It was taking FOREVER (an hour to hour and a half) of nursing, wrestling with him, nursing, pulling him back onto the futon etc (I was happy to stay with him, pat him, nurse him etc. and would do so--but he would wrestle with me, wail and bite).
So, we decided to move him back to his crib to eliminate the crawling (he was crawling in his sleep and waking up wailing in the middle of the room) and the wrestling. The thing is, he used to go down for his naps easily--he'd nurse, get drowsy and I'd leave the room and he'd contentedly fall asleep. So...yesterday I did one nap and he slept from 12:30-3:12--went down in the crib fairly easily. Today, he seemed exhausted and I tried to get him to nap around 9am but gave up after 20 minutes of the wrestling, nursing and weeping. So, I figured I'd keep him up for a middle of the day nap--we got to 10:30am and he was exhausted. So, nap it was--until noon. Then, tried to get him to nap again at 2:45 (with his sleep cues--eye rubs, fussiness, yawns)--cue the wrestle, weep, refusing to nurse. Eventually I gave up and wore him for a bit and then tried again at 4pm when he was acting exhausted again.
So, the only time I've been able to get him to sleep during the day this past week has been to wait until he is absolutely freakin' exhausted. Which means he's cranky and cries and cries when I put him down for his nap (we don't do CIO but even with me there patting him he is wailing--which is a new thing for him).
It seems like he just can't slow his body down--and it feels like we've tried everything. He seems way too little to do the 1 nap thing (especially since he was napping so well a week and a half ago). We're all worn out--especially since he wakes frequently at night (we used to co-sleep but it led to increased wakings and no one was getting the rest they needed--we tried having him in our room in a separate sleep space but we found we kept waking him if he was in our room).
So, long story short...these are my questions:
Is this what the 2 to 1 nap transition looks like?
Is it just because he can crawl now and he really needs the 2 naps?
How long should I be attempting to get him to sleep when he gives me sleep cues before I throw in the towel and get him up again?
What do other folks ten month old's days look like?
I'm a bit worried because his afternoon nap today is so late...I'm not sure what that will mean for tonight (we do a 6:30-7:30 depending on how tired he looks, bedtime)