Originally Posted by SeattleRain
If you read the OP, the poster is literally at the end of her rope. A baby who weans early (and what are we saying is early?) is better than a mama who is losing her mind. Babies need a sane mother who is not a danger to her child (i.e. driving off the side of the road, falling asleep at the wheel) more than they need anything else, including breastmilk. If the OP thinks she's at the point where she's going to go crazy, she should rework things, even if its at the detriment of the nursing relationship.
I DID NOT say she shouldn't do something about it. I even suggested some things to do. All I said was it is dangerous to limit milk and night wean before 1 y/o. That is my stance period. I am NOT excusing OPs concerns and I do think she is well in seeking the help of the sleep specialist which I wrote in my post.
What credible medical (or the like) sources say a breast fed baby does not need milk at night under 1 year of age?
If you mean STTN as 5-7 hours and not 12 hours this may be a misunderstanding all together.
Also Peace if your baby has one breast by choice, than that is fine, but I don't think you should advise people to only give one breast which is what I took from your post (possibly misunderstood?) You had what like 6 feeding or something and 2 were one breast? I can not recall now and do not care to look it up.
I have BTDT with trying to stretch out feedings and this and that so DD would STTN, but it just never happened and still has not fully, at least not a 12hr night.
Dr. Sears says that you can not expect a child to STTN until age 3 I believe, of course if they do STTN before that WONDERFUL!
I absolutely believe OP needs a break and hopefully her baby will start giving her at least 3-4 hrs peace and quiet at night and who knows maybe the baby will start STTN and I hope he does,
However I can not condone actual forced night weaning under a year old.
I have never read any documents stating babies do not need calories or drink at night.
Also I can understand your reasoning of she will take more ounces if I space out day feeds, but you really have no idea how many ounces she takes or not and I have found most babies will space out the feeds themselves. My DD will usually go 3-4 hours during the day but not always that long and sometimes longer. She has gone 6 hrs during the day before and as long as 10hrs at night.
OP I truly hope you can find a solution that will work for you and your family so that you may have some sanity.
When I wanted to stretch out night feeds, I made sure she got enough milk during the day and cluster fed before bed. If her first waking was before 2 hours I would lay her on my chest (and still do) and rub her back and sing to her. Usually after 10 mins she will calm down and lull back to sleep. I then just roll her off of me. Then I just extended it to 3 hours and then 4. Of course she didn't like it at first, but at least she was still comforted enough, and felt safe.