Originally Posted by lrgs
peacelove&camping: her night nursing varies, sometimes it's every 2 hours and then sometimes it's a lot better, like last night she ate at 10, 1, 5. She woke up a couple times in between 1 and 5 but was settled with a soother. Some might think that is a lot of night waking but it was good for us! Sometimes she'll take the soother and go back to sleep and sometimes not. When she decides the soother isn't cutting it and she wants to nurse there is no way around it. She goes to bed around 7pm (ish) and goes to sleep on her own without any issue (most of the time). The other night she woke up at 8 and I knew she wasn't hungry but she could not settle without nursing, I tried rocking, walking, etc but she got so worked up and wouldn't stop crying. so I nursed and she went right back to sleep. During night feedings she'll usually fall back asleep while feeding but wakes up when I put her back in the crib.......but she's very drowsy and goes right back to sleep. We tried avocado yesterday for the first time so maybe i'll try some on toast or pita bread today. She is currently nursing every 2-3 hours during the day........3 is the absolute max she'll go. Was it hard to space out the feedings?
HonkyTonka; Yes, we do have a set bedtime (7-7:30) and a consistent bedtime routine............we've had it in place for about 4 months now. Thankfully she goes down well at bedtime but then wakes a lot afterwards.
Hey mama, I've BTDT, and these 2 responses stood out. Since your dd is nursing every 2-3hours during the day, can you try to lengthen those nursing sessions? My ds was always very distracted during daytime nursing, and nursing in a dark room, or when things were very calm we could always get a good long nursing session in that really filled him up. Then I still offered frequently during the day (every 2-3hours) to make sure he got lots of milk during the day. That lessened the amount that he had to nurse at night.
As for avocado - feel free to give those to her right before bed too - they have tons of calories and are super fatty and good for her. If she eats them right before bed (when your milk supply is probably less than at other times of day), she may not wake up as much. Yes, I know its "anti-AP" to feed a baby right before bed to get them to sleep longer, but peanut butter worked WONDERS for us a bedtime snack after ds reached a year.
And, as far as not settling without nursing, she will learn if you stick to it. It's HARD the first few nights, but if you know she isn't hungry (like, she nursed to sleep at 7:30 and wakes up 8pm), and just stay calm and patient she will go to sleep. The first night will be terrible. The second will also be bad. After that she will likely start to understand. Now, I don't advocate CIO - but finding other ways of comforting her is not CIO. Crying in arms is not CIO.
You can also try to switch your bedtime routine so that nursing is at the beginning, and she goes to sleep after something else. Like, bath, nursing, stories, rock to sleep or something. Then she will eventually break the nurse-to-sleep association and will start to need that less at night.
I don't know, hopefully that will help a little. Good luck mama. This too shall pass.