Any scientific resources I can throw at my husband to convince him that a home birth might be in our best interests?
A little background: I'm 42 and will be delivering before I turn 43. My previous two births were in a hospital setting with no drugs. My first labor was about 5 hours. My second, I delivered within 40 minutes of arriving at the hospital - a sum total labor at 2 hours and 40 minutes. We joke that traffic was so bad, we almost named our daughter, Ted, the name of the tunnel we were stuck in.
At my last birth I was treated with that advanced maternal age "complication." And spent the last 3 weeks with multiple visits to the antenatal testing unit for monitoring. I was also required to go through genetic counseling where they apparently scared the begeezus out of dh with all the what ifs. We chose not to have have testing other than simple blood tests. I would have been feeling way more empowered at this birth if it wasn't for the fact that I spent about 7 to 10 weeks of the second trimester with mono. I was both physically and emotionally drained by that (because no one could figure out what was wrong with me).
My dh, is completely against us having a home birth. He is insisting that it be at a medical setting. We have one birth center option that is less than a 30 minute (in traffic) drive from us. However, their transfer rate is rather sketchy and I have yet to find out from them whether they will automatically reject me due to my age and a benign heart condition (PVCs, no meds). I don't want to have this baby in our car and I would much rather avoid being hooked up the entire time to a monitor so I can do my usual labor dance What can I show or have him see so that his anxiety is reduced?