Hi, I'm Delfina

[delfin]

Hello you all

i recently posted a thread with my story in PaP. I'm now defenatly separated. X behaved in a horrible manner, and still is. He pretended to be still living under the same roof, but it's not going to happen anymore. He's dating someone and I told him that as a matter of respect he couldn't see her until he was gone. Well, today he had lunch with her. I can't take it anymore.

I'm so sad, and angry and dissapointed. I can't believe I'm getting no respect or consideration for my feelings, since I did want to fix our relationship. 

It makes me crazy his habit of doing things for hmself and pretending he's doing it for someone else. He said he was going to stay here until he's apartment is ready because he wanted to be with our son. That's BS. He wanted to stay here because is more comfortable for him than going to a hostel or sleeping at his workshop.

He lies, so much. Im so dissapointed. He hurt me like no one else did before. After all the horrible things he said and did, he has the nerve to say he doesn't love me anymore. And deal with the fact that there's another woman. I don't want to be an obstacle for his "happiness". I just want to move on.

Welcome to my pity party....tell me i will be fine please!

[Halfasianmomma]

Mama, I'm so sorry you're going through this. *hugs*

If you want to look for silver linings, here's one, from my perspective anyway: now you know who you are dealing with. Now there's no pretense of caring for anything but himself. I know it's a bitter pill to swallow, but you are better off knowing this than not. 

Have you spoken to a lawyer?

[BabyBearsMummy]

You deserve so much better. 

Today you begin to walk away for the past and begin walking towards your future. I can't wait to see where your journey takes you.

[rubelin]

You will be fine

In fact, you'll be more than fine, you will flourish once you've gotten yourself back and have started on your way to creating a fabulous life without his ugliness in your house. It's hard now, so give yourself lots of time and space to grieve and rant and all that and it will be less and less each week until it's just an occasional thought that reminds you that it ever happened

[delfin]

thanks for the support. Ive been trying to post a reply for days and there is something worng.

i appreciate your support mamas, thank you!

[delfin]

Oh my,

saturday trough tuesday he stayed in the house. He's been seeing this girl but said he was going slow since he needs to work on his own issues. We have been sleeping togheter all those days, but tuesday he said he really needed the space and started sleeping at a friends house.

Still, hes been coming to see our son. This morning he came, stayed for a little bit and went to work.

When i went to put some trash in the can, i found a condom package!

I called him, and he said that he was very sorry, he emptied the trash from his bag and didn't realize. I cant believe he's so careless! I'm so hurt, we have been talking about him needing time to fix himself and then see what is going to happen with us, but he's already having sex with her. And his doing it so in my face. How do you not realize your are throwing a condom packaging???

I cant believe this is what is happening with us. I love him so much, and deep down I know we are not done. But this is very upsetting.

[Halfasianmomma]

Your ex partner is living under your roof, has lied to you, declared he doesn't love you, is seeing someone else *while* still sleeping with you,...and you think you are not done with him?

Do you not feel you are worth more than this?

[MissLotus]

Originally Posted by Halfasianmomma 

Your ex partner is living under your roof, has lied to you, declared he doesn't love you, is seeing someone else *while* still sleeping with you,...and you think you are not done with him?

Do you not feel you are worth more than this?

This is what I'm wondering, too.  Where in his behavior are you seeing a future together?

You may not be done, but that's if YOU choose to keep on with him.  He has shown you in full what he is.  You don't deserve to be treated poorly.  But he is treating you poorly and you are accepting it.  I do hope you're getting tested for STDs, because what's going on is dangerous.

[jenimomma]

Hmmm... I feel as though I am reading my life not long ago.  I know where you are and I hope you can take that last step to become completely out of the relationship.  You deserve so much more in life and you really can't see it just yet.  But believe me...it is better on the other side.  You will flourish on your own.

[Momtwice]

Our minds and hearts work in odd ways sometimes. It can take time to end something even when it's become really messed up. Your life will get better and better.

[mexicali mami]

Be strong Delfina.  You know you deserve better.  I know it's hard and painful just get tough.  He's holding you back from a great life..it's out there, waiting for you. 

You can do it.  Lock your doors and your heart.  Remember that you are setting an example for your son.  You both deserve so so so much more.

Besos.