I breastfed my DS and while I would not have considered myself a "lactivist" my DH would probably beg to differ. I did have to realize that in the foster world, I was going to have to use formula. I had no clue what age placement we would get, when we woudl get them etc. I held DD 99% of the time I was giving her a bottle (there was a few one off times we were on a road trip or something). I always held her bottle. DD initially faced away from me for her bottles, but eventually it became a very nice relaxing time and she started to want to face me and even at 15 months when she stopped bottles, I was still holding her and holding her bottles. It can be very bonding. She would hold her bottles for other people, just not me and it was okay. Sometimes she likes me to still hold her sippy cups. Now, my new foster daughter is different, she wants/needs to be held very very close to the chest for bottles and it has to be the "perfect" position. I don't mind, I actually enjoy it and it can be a bonding experience. I look at her just like I did DS when he was nursing and her big brown eyes connect to me. It also takes her 20-30 minutes to finish a bottle.
I had a can of good start she didn't like it, she likes the enfamil. Funny how they can have strong preferences at such a young age.