Of course, I'm asking this on a board with lots of other pregnant women so I'm sure the opinions will be somewhat jaded
Months ago dh and I were just playing around with baby names and came up with a list (about 5 per gender). DH really wants the middle name to be Neal if it's a boy (his middle name is Neal as is his dad's and blah blah). I don't particularly like the name (okay, I really don't like the name) but I agreed. It's a family thing, plus the middle name isn't really used much anyway so I can suck it up and deal with it. No biggie. If it's a girl dh really wants either the first or middle name to be Noelle. He really likes this as a female version of Neal (this baby will likely be our only so he really wants to honor his dad by using some version of that name). I don't mind the name Noelle, but it's not my favorite. However, I've agreed to use it as either a first or middle name (I'm hoping for middle).
Anyway, so last night we were talking about names again. I brought out the list we had come up with months ago and he pretty much knocked all of our boy names off the list except one, saying he doesn't like them. Okay, frustrating but whatever. So we started talking about more names and looking through online lists and stuff. Every single name I suggested he said no to. After about 2 hours of this (we were also watching tv so it wasn't constant!) I had suggested probably 25-30 names. He finally agreed to 1 of them being put on our list, but he doesn't even like that one. We now have 7 boy names, 6 of them dh wanted on the list and only 1 of them I put on the list. I'm not crazy about the names dh put on the list, but I agreed to putting them on the list to see if any of them grow on me. DH won't even do that with any of the ones I like. He won't even agree to put them on the stupid list! We have 9 girl names on our list now and only 1 of them was what I picked, dh has vetoed all the other names I like.
Finally I got frustrated and told dh I was done, I didn't want to even talk about names anymore. He spouted off some comment about "most of the names you're picking are long names. I hate long names". Ouch. Double whammy that not only does he hate all the names I'm picking, but he apparently hates my name too. I mentioned that to him, that I have a long name, and he said "and you've never noticed how I never call you by your full name". WTF?!? NOW you're going to tell me that you hate my name? Seriously?
I'm not asking him to love any of the names I like, but to simply give it a chance. Let a couple be on the list and see if any grow on you. But he seems to think that there's no compromise with naming a kid, that it has to be a name that he loves and that's it. The messed up part is this is pretty much the only thing dh has ever been like this on. Most other things he's more than willing to compromise on.