I am currently going through the EXACT same thing with my own parents. They keep asking me for my reasons why I don't want them to watch TV with my 3-year-old ds. This has put a huge rift in my relationship with them, leaving plenty of awkwardness whenever I visit them--though, it's not just TV, it's also a husband they can't stand, a bad history from when said husband and I lived with them for a while (BIG MISTAKE), and also the "food" they choose to eat and want my son to eat.
My rules are my son only eats the food I bring with me when I visit their house and that he doesn't watch TV at all. I understand I've involved myself in a full power struggle with them, but discussing anything with them in the past is futile at best. My mom is on Lipitor (to handle her cholesterol), has a cabinet filled with weight-watchers crap. I grew up in front of the TV, non-stop. It was on during dinner time. It was in all of our rooms. I ate chocolate chip cookies, Cocoa Puffs and whatever else for breakfast. Both of my parents are overweight, rarely exercise and love all that low-fat, 100-calorie pack marketed junk.
Whenever I'm there, they've made efforts to not turn on the TV, definitely not for my son, but all that does is create awkwardness because we run out of things to talk about. I fully realize right now I am in a power struggle with them, because they can't understand how I want to raise my son since it's so different from how I was raised. My husband was the impetus for many of the changes we've made in his and our own life, but I feel so much better about how we are living:
- No TV in the house, though he and I do watch movies on Netflix or an occasional DVD
- No processed foods
- Only 100 percent whole wheat flour for breads or any snacks
- Whole foods
- No nitrates, food dyes or weird things we can't pronounce or understand
I'd love for them to adopt some of these ways for their own lives, but that feels like an impossible task. When my mom wonders why I don't eat her food and thinks I do it because her food is not good enough, how on Earth do I say YES! Your food is not good enough for me, and it's not good enough for you either. They now want to know my reasoning (why no TV for my son and why only my food). Any tips or advice would be appreciated.