Just a little vent and rant..... homebirth legalities

[Aliy]

Not likeing measurements dates and all that junk right now

Okay so here in BC midwives are pretty regulated. Only allowed homebirth after 37 weeks and pretty much have to cover their butts at every turn. Better than going with an OB mind you but they have to think just about what an OB would think to make sure there can't be any backlash.

so here is the begining of my rant I got a 20 week u/s. It dated me at 18 +3 weeks. re did the u/s at 24 weeks and the measurments were consistant and so is the fundal height measurements. So they adjusted my date by 10 days, giving me a March 13th due date instead of a March 3rd due date. I was 37 weeks yesterday and have been having a fair bit of prodomal labour stuff.... nothing super major. My waters are still intact and there has been no show or anything but significant cervical pain when i'm having the tightenings. ( i don't know whether to call the BH or contractions casue I have easy labours and some hurt enough that they make me stop what i'm doing) but anyways. I'm so frustrated I know baby is going to come when baby is ready. i just feel so much stress with knowing if i don't make 9 more days i'm supposed to go to the hospital.

I talked with one of the midwives in the practice and they did a case review on me and with how my fundal height in measureing they feel more comfortable with going with the later due date casue going by the earlier due date leads to a likeyness of a smaller baby ( baby was 10th percentile for the dates based on LMP) . I know a later due date give me more time for post dates but i'm not really a post date mama. both my previous children we early 1 day and 11 days. I have really been thinking this monkey will be ealry too even before they changed my dates.

I just really don't fully get this.. how relialbe is fundal height measurements? and a 20 week u/s for dating... (where tech error can be up to 10 days??????)

Okay maybe i'm just getting really done with being pregnant. i have had nasuea pretty much the entire time.... i'm just worn out and my hips are really hurting even more so since the baby is now head down and engaged... agreed upon by both my midwife and chiropractor......

I'm ready to meet my little monkey and I'm worried that she's not going to wait 9 days. and then being preterm by the second due date is just going to give me grief at the hospital.

[Marissamom]

Fundal height can be off by a couple of weeks, and US can be off by just as much, so it's really frustrating that they are going by the later date. is there any chance of them considering a "split the difference" date? 

[Aliy]

that would be nice but they really didn't seem too flexible.... well correction the other two didn't seem flexible the one I actually talked to told me that I still have a choice in the matter even if the baby decided to come early. they can't MAKE me go to the hospital. she seemed a bit more suportive of the idea and flexible but that could be becasue she was the one to have to deliever the news.

i think we'll really just have to see when this baby decided to come. So far and comfort measures seems to stall things out so clearly baby hasn't decided it's time.

[Banana731]

[crunchymama214]

Oh man, I can understand the frustration completely!!!! That's awful that they're so stuck on dates. I mean, you're full term!!! I really don't see how 10 days at this point is really going to make them say "you have to go to the hospital" instead of just coming to you at home. I really do hope that you make it another 10 days though, just so you don't have to bother with anything like going to the hospital or trying to fight it!

[Aliy]

I'm trying to take it super easy right now to not start anything up again.

I was talking to a lady who runs a birth store in town here and she was taking timing with me. and she laughed at the stress they are putting on me right now. ds2 was born at 38 weeks and 3 days i think and he was * lbs 1.6 oz and not i didn't have any health concerns or weight issues.. i just make big babies quick.

i'm sure once i reach their dates and relax a bit things will start up pretty quickly. I had 4 hours of irregular contractions the other night... so far nothing today but we'll see how tonight goes....

 8 days baby

[weliveintheforest]

Can you go by the start of your pregnancy?  Do you know when you conceived?  Did you get an early positive or anything that you can remind them of?

[elisheva]

My BC midwife also seems to put a lot of stock in the 18 week u/s. I have heard that really nothing after 12 weeks is reliable for dating. It's your body. You know when you ovulate (which my MW says women almost never know when approx they ovulate but I wasn't even temping and I could tell her the exact day :) You either put your foot down with them now or wait it out and if you go before their 37-week mark, are they going to call 911 or come and attend your birth? I'm so sorry they are stressing you out like this. If the situation is anything like it is here in the c-section capital of Canada, midwives walk a fine line between serving their clients and not creating bad feelings among GPs/OBs...Ridiculous, but there you go.