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post #41 of 72
I'm a shoes off person, but I would never in a million years feel comfortable asking someone to take off their shoes. We have a pile of shoes by our front door. We take off our shoes when we come in, if that's not enough of a signal for some of the people that come into our house (which it isn't) that's why I have a vacuum. (That and the huge piles of hair I leave everywhere I go).We have some friends that are also shoes off people - they do ask people to take off their shoes when they come in and I have gone into their house for "just a minute or two" and been asked to take off my shoes. I do because it's their house, their rules. But it is weird and confrontational IMO, even though I am a shoes off person. If I'm just running by their house to pick up one thing I left there last week, I don't want to take the time to take off my shoes, and I also don't want to just stand in the doorway. It's just so socially awkward to have it be such a strict rule. Plus it's weird to go to a party at their house. Everyone is dressed fancy, but standing around in their socks.

So, I don't really think there is a nice way to do it. If you want to ask people to take off their shoes, you have to just cut straight to asking.
post #42 of 72

You could use one of those nice signs that you see in show homes that say "Thank you for Removing your Shoes"

post #43 of 72

I have a good friend who is married to a Japanese man and they have a no-shoe house. The first time I went to their house, she just asked if I could take my shoes off and told me there was a pile of slippers if I wanted a pair...and she mentioned that her husband was Japanese, as if to explain the no-shoe policy. I thought the pile/basket of assorted slippers was a nice option.

Our house is more shoe-less than not, but I don't really care with guests. I like them to be comfortable, so if that means leaving their shoes on, so be it. We have a giant pile of shoes on a rug by the door, so most people see that and just automatically take off their shoes. If they don't, no big deal. There are no crawling kids here (yet) and my fiance loves vacuuming, so it's all cool.

post #44 of 72

Buy shoe covers and ask people to put them over their shoes. You can get them fairly cheap. http://www.slipfreeshoes.com/shop/categories.php?grp=-1&id=6892

 

My sil is Japanese and they had a no shoe policy until several family members got too old or disable to take off their shoes.  We have an aunt that were leg braces, slippers are not an option, they are not compatable with her braces.  She also had slippers for people.  She now uses both.  Her mom was burden by the covers and that my sil would help put them over people shoes.  Her mom felt it was racist and disrespectful until she met my then 95 year old grandpa.  Her mother quickly grabbed the covers and helped put them on....she realize when my sil was helping people put them on was because they could not do it themselves. 

 

 

 

post #45 of 72

We take our shoes off, not really for a cleanliness reason but because we're more comfy that way.  We would never make guests do it though - whatever they are comfortable with is fine.

 

It really is cultural. When we visit DH's family in Greece we would NEVER have our shoes off in the house, it is considered rude. So there, it's shoes or slippers or something, never barefoot.

post #46 of 72

Go to the dollar store, buy a few pairs of cheap slippers in various sizes. Keep them by the door. When people come by, simply say, Do you mind taking off your shoes. Its makes things so much easier for us as a family. Here aer soem slippers you can use in the house.

post #47 of 72

I was going to say "Move to Canada" but MusicianDad beat me to it. We say "it's okay, you can leave your shoes on," but everybody takes them off because they can see ours are by the door.

 

We visited friends in San Francisco recently though, and when I walked in they *immediately* asked me to take my shoes off. Their shoe rack was kind of around the corner so I hadn't seen it yet, but I certainly wasn't going to walk right through their house with my shoes on! I found it a bit embarrassing actually - as I would have taken them off anyway as soon as I noticed they had theirs off, but they didn't give me a chance.

 

We have a bucket of slippers from Ikea by the door but people don't generally bother.

post #48 of 72

I have a good friend who made a small sign that she put right on the front door that says "please take off your shoes". It seems to work fine.

 

We're not a shoes off house although I'm fine for people to remove their shoes. I'm not worried about any germs on the bottom of my shoes. I figure if I've been in the public restroom in Target and then walked back through the store and then through the parking lot and then to my car and then drove to my house and got out of my car where I walked to the front door I've probably eliminated most of the restroom germs. I wouldn't go around licking the bottoms of my boots, but I wouldn't lick the floor either—anywhere! We have dogs and kids so they bring in far more dirt than my shoes do. If my shoes are muddy, of course I'll take them off, but dry shoes I got no problem with. My kids' art projects make far, far, far, far more mess than my shoes ever make!!

 

It does seem a bit intimate to take my shoes off in other's houses, but I'm fine with it as I'm not a very formal person. I won't wear other people's slippers—even my very good no-shoes friend. That just seems too close, like wearing someone else's underwear or something.

 

My feet get really really cold, even at temps where other people's feel warm, so it's very uncomfortable for me to be shoe-less in the winter. I usually wear my fake Uggs (real sheepskin, though) indoors in the winter. I switch to slippers sometimes, but they don't keep me as warm. In the summer, I'm barefoot all the time and so are my kids indoors and out. Do people who have shoeless houses insist that their kids wear shoes outside in the summer so their feet stay clean for the house? My kids' feet get filthy! We're definitely not in the pristine house camp!!!

 

If the OP wants folks to take shoes off, though, I think PPs gave a lot of good advice. Just casually asking is great, but if you're non-confrontational I think a little sign might work. I couldn't have a big pile of shoes because I have a young dog who likes to chew up things like that. I'm always reminding my kids to put their shoes in their closet. We do have a nice closet by the front door that's perfect for stashing guest shoes, though.

post #49 of 72

 

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  but I refuse to take off my shoes in the winter 

 

 

But isn't this the time you most need to take off your shoes? Winter= snow and mud.

 

This thread is odd for me. It must be a regional thing. Where  I live (Canada) no one ever wears shoes in someones house. Obviously in the winter you would not wear your snow/mud/salty outdoor boots inside of someones home, but in the summer everyone removes their sandals too. No one asks, it just is.  If you go to party it is totally normal for there to be dozens of shoes to step over just inside the door. Where do you live that people where shoes inside a house?

post #50 of 72


 

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But isn't this the time you most need to take off your shoes? Winter= snow and mud.

 

This thread is odd for me. It must be a regional thing. Where  I live (Canada) no one ever wears shoes in someones house. Obviously in the winter you would not wear your snow/mud/salty outdoor boots inside of someones home, but in the summer everyone removes their sandals too. No one asks, it just is.  If you go to party it is totally normal for there to be dozens of shoes to step over just inside the door. Where do you live that people where shoes inside a house?

 I live and grew up in southern California and it's pretty 50/50 here.  Lots of sandals and heels being worn that people just tend to kick off on the porch before heading inside other peoples homes.  But in my whole life I can only think of maybe 2-3 houses where people actually had a serious no shoe policy.
 

post #51 of 72

I'm in the US South (NC). No snow here right now. We get some occasionally and those snow boots would get taken off, of course, but it's a beautiful sunny day 58 degrees F right now. It's not particularly muddy out. We don't have snow cover all winter so when it does melt or rain it soaks in and dries off the next day. We don't have a mud season. There's the occasional wet day, but mostly it's fine and unless you're just walking through mud puddles for the sake of it you can avoid them. Of course if I stepped in dog poop I'd leave that outside. I would imagine half the US is similar.

post #52 of 72

 

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Here (Ontario) it's normal for everyone to take shoes off at the door. I've even had workmen take off their shoes when coming in. It is just normal.

Yup.  We've had workmen over lately, and friends over to help with work as well, and if they come to the front door, they have to walk through our (carpeted... ugh) kitchen to get to the room where the work is being done.  They've all either started to take off their boots or offered to take them off.  And that's knowing that they will have to put their boots right back on again once they're in the room where they're working.  

 

 

post #53 of 72

My dad is an appliance repairman and he has little cloth covers that he puts over his shoes when he goes inside people's houses. He says the customers love it, and it's faster than taking his shoes off.

post #54 of 72

I read through all of the responses so mine is going to be all over the place...

 

We are a shoes-free home.  My home isn't overly "pristine" (I don't mind a coffee cup on the kitchen counter and/or feet - with socks - on my family room coffee table) but I do feel as though shoes are very dirty.  I also feel like my home is a "nest" - very comfy and cozy, a place to relax.  Shoes, imo, are worn when I am going somewhere, they are not a part of my daily routine.  When I am home, it feels bizarre to wear them.  I feel it'd be the same as wearing a coat and/or carrying a purse around my house. 

 

Most anyone who comes over (or invited in), knows me well.  They know I am a clean freak and they know we don't wear whoes.  So, this means they respect us, they respect our home, and they take off their shoes.  If they are just stoppingby, they can leave their shoes on.  Our main floor is tile and hardwoods so I don't mind vacuuming those (I do it multiple times daily anyway).  If they think they're going downstairs (or upstairs!!!) w/ shoes on, they are nuts.

 

Pets - We only have an indoor dog but he does have to go potty outside so we have a small piece of carpet (leftover from installation) at the door where our dog sits to wipe his paws.  If it is overly nasty outside, we grab a towel (for that purpose) and wipe him and his paws).  My kids (I know this is under the "pets" part, ha ha) wipe their feet off in the summertime too.

 

Groceries - I deal the same way - come in through the garage, set them on the floor, remove shoes and transport to kitchen.

 

OP - maybe have those booties (that Laggie mentioned).  I see them all the time at home showings.  When we have furniture delivered and/or our carpets cleaned, they always wear them.  Buy some and have a basket near the door for people who don't want to take their shoes off.

 

 

 

post #55 of 72

Point and say,"Shoes go there" If they refuse they can stand on the mat at the back door,or go outside. Paper booties on hand  for workers(not visitors) dumb enough to enter a home without their own. If people make a stink about it I will be sure to wear my chicken coop shoes to THEIR home.

post #56 of 72
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Point and say,"Shoes go there" If they refuse they can stand on the mat at the back door,or go outside. Paper booties on hand  for workers(not visitors) dumb enough to enter a home without their own. If people make a stink about it I will be sure to wear my chicken coop shoes to THEIR home.


Way to make people feel welcome in your home. Because, you know, we've all been grubbing in the chicken coop right before we enter your domain.

To a PP, I have lived in Michigan, Oregon, Nebraska, Los Angeles, London and now in the Bay Area. I also visit Oklahoma with some frequency. None of these places have I encountered a strong shoe-free culture. Growing up (in San Jose and Metro Detroit) we all wore our shoes inside unless it was snowing. The one exception was at my uncles houses because they lived in the country and their driveways were always muddy. I hated taking my shoes off at their houses though because they always made fun of the fact that I couldn't take 'em off without almost falling over (and there was no where to sit).

When repair people come to my house taking off their shoes is not even on their radar. I'll have to check this again today when the chair-cleaning guy comes (ah! potty training!).

SAHDS if you clean your floors multiple times a day than your house qualifies as pristine to me. I clean my floors with much less frequency lol.
post #57 of 72
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Originally Posted by SAHDS View Post

Shoes, imo, are worn when I am going somewhere, they are not a part of my daily routine.  When I am home, it feels bizarre to wear them.  I feel it'd be the same as wearing a coat and/or carrying a purse around my house. 


Interesting... one of the reasons I am having a tough time going shoe-free is that I feel the exact opposite... to me, not wearing shoes is like not wearing pants or underwear around the house... well I'm sure some people don't wear clothing in the house, but I do... I feel 'naked' without shoes on (but I am slowly adapting!!)

One thing I see from this thread and the spin-off is, everyone has very different & deeply-ingrained views on this... I had no idea people would think it was rude & offensive for me to take (or not take) off my shoes!

OP, I'm curious what your plan is!!
post #58 of 72
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Originally Posted by mattemma04 View Post

Point and say,"Shoes go there" If they refuse they can stand on the mat at the back door,or go outside. Paper booties on hand  for workers(not visitors) dumb enough to enter a home without their own. If people make a stink about it I will be sure to wear my chicken coop shoes to THEIR home.



I don't care whose home it was, if I was treated so rudely I'd never go back. Thankfully the no shoes homes I've visited have owners who handle guests with tact and grace. 

post #59 of 72

I started to ask visitors to take off their shoes when I read that it cuts down on lead dust in your home immensely.  If you google it, you'll find that a universal tip for decreasing lead in your home is to remove shoes.  I have little kids who are on the floor a lot. I definitely want to minimize their exposure to lead!  I'm in Georgia and we take our shoes off when we visit, unless our hosts say it's not necessary and their floors have a lot of visible dirt or pet hair that I'd rather not get on my socks. redface.gif

post #60 of 72
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This thread is odd for me. It must be a regional thing. Where  I live (Canada) no one ever wears shoes in someones house. Obviously in the winter you would not wear your snow/mud/salty outdoor boots inside of someones home, but in the summer everyone removes their sandals too. No one asks, it just is.  If you go to party it is totally normal for there to be dozens of shoes to step over just inside the door. Where do you live that people where shoes inside a house?


I was wondering the same thing.  I live in Canada too, and like I posted upthread I don't know anyone IRL who wears shoes inside the house.  And I'm lol @ musiciandad's description of a "typical Canadian" shoes-on-or-off conversation - so true!!!

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