Talking about relationships/"crushes" with an 8yo

[HeatherB]

Anyone have tips for talking about boy/girl relationships and "crushes" at 8? I'm pretty sure my eldest is rather enamored with a lovely young lady, and I'd just like to have the topic out in the open so that we can build on it as he grows and is more interested in more serious relationships. And any ideas for words other than "crush?" I don't know why it annoys me so...

I know I was quite taken with some boys from a very young age, and also know that my mom somehow navigated all of that without (much) making me feel embarrassed about it. I want to be very delicate with DS and help him start on a positive road.

Any particular tips from those who have BTDT? I'm not expecting problems (and DH and I are on the same page - no poking fun at him, which drives me BATTY when parents/adults do that to a kid who has a crush) but am realizing that we're quickly approaching uncharted territory! Why do kids have to grow so fast?!

I gotta say, though, that it's awfully cute to see him follow her around. I just don't want him to annoy her, either!

[fritz]

Sorry, no BTDT advice. 

However, I did want to provide a few alternatives for the term "crush."  Slightly old-fashioned--you could say he's sweet on her.  He's infatuated with her.  He's "in like" with her.  He's interested in her.  He's partial to her.  If it's really extreme:  he worships her, is bewitched by her, is besotted by her, is obsessed with her, idolizes her, is fixated on her.

I'd think you could gently broach the subject just by stating your observations to your DS:  DS, I've noticed that lately you've seemed to be really interested in X.  Being interested in someone is perfectly normal/developmentally appropriate.  What is it about X that you find so fascinating/enjoyable/remarkable/special?

[meemee]

tips?

no idea what to tell you.

just like hte sex and death issue - i would answer questions that were asked. i'd never bring up the topic myself. NEVER EVER. it would embarras her to DEATH. NEVER would i say hey i saw you with that boy.... 

i will say though its sooo cute. and such a celebration for me to see my dd 'grow up'. however she's been at it since she was 4. she had a proposal at 4, was married and then divorced (since they went to different schools after preschool) and then realised she liked too many so chose to stay single. 

i have never initiated any conversation but listened to dd's secrets. if there was a difference of opinion i helped her see the situation from his point of view.

they are sooo cute together. he takes care of dd - making sure she has everything for lunch. he runs and does all these things for her that he doesnt usually do for any one else.