I'm really glad I...
didn't put my entire life on hold because we got pregnant unexpectedly. I know I was really lucky to not have any problems and to have so many people around us who celebrated us having a baby together instead of abandoning us for straying from the approved religious path. (there are still some old grudges being held against certain family members...)
told my mother (and sisters) and mother-in-law that they could buy us all the baby and kid clothes they wanted, just PLEASE avoud extreme pink. they all have been petty good about the pink and we haven't had to buy clothes for either daughter yet! and dd1 is 3.5 yo.
made my own wrap. i get comments on it EVERY time I use it, it has just the right amount of stretch, even for a tiny baby. It is perfect for wearing even my 16 mo baby for hours at a time, is perfect for traveling around tons of people when just me and my 2 girls and it can do anything carrying and do blanket duty too!
accepted a really used ring sling from some friends. it wore out really quick but i dissected it and sewed a new one that I like even better. it was invaluable and still is, especially for errand trips in and out of the carseat all the time.
coslept and breastfed. (still am w/ dd2! ) I'm also glad that i nightweaned/weaned my dd1 to a paci at about 6 mo prego w/ dd2. i felt so much better and dh helped a lot w/ putting dd1 to bed when we transitioned her to her own room.
accepted the old crib and toddler bed from my parents that they had kept from me and my sibs. yeah we didn't use the crib much, didn't even set it up with dd2 (though there were times i wish i had...) but allowing my dad to paint it up for us i think made him feel better. and i might set it up if we have space for dc3 eventually...
stuck with our parenting gut even though we have no friends with kids (well now we do...) to lean on and both our parents had different experiences with us... being of a different time
glad I learned to validate others' birth, breastfeeding and child experiences and just not let on that i might think they're wrong and really DID have enough milk and just didn't try, etc.
glad I did a "homebirth" with a midwife at her clinic-home with dd1 and stuck with it despite arguments about safety with brothers in law and mothers. it was wonderful and i had no problems and i still feel that it kept me from being forced into a medicalized birth unnecessarily.
glad i found a good family doc here (different midwife culture here...) instead who was willing to let me do a completely natural birth. (even though dd2 took over 30 hours of actual labor).
stuck with school. and that I decided to just do daycare. although it is an amazingly wonderful place. and that we spent the $50 for the high quality single hand pump breastpump. I didn't need more, especialy having to haul it around with me at school and I'm bl;essed by my milk quantities.
call things "immunity builders" like eating sheep poop and crawling on dirty floors. yes not great and prevention is applied. but kids do gross things and i'm glad i don't freak about it.
always encouraged independence. less whiny do-everything-for-me moments. i despise watching it in other families.
kept every issue of mothering. they all have something worthwhile in them. i loaned them to a friend when they got prego and she loved it and devoured them. I love being able to support friends and family that way.
I wish I had...
taken more photos of my dd2. and family pics. and of dd1 after dd2... etc
put more emphasis on a schedule for dd1 especially but for our whole family. our girls suffer from not always having one and so do we.
felt comfortable asking my own mother to come stay with us for a week after dd2 was born. as much as i love my mil, she wanted to sit and talk rather than do chores for me or apologized so much for not doing them i ended up having her hold the baby and watch dd1 while i got up and did work. which was really ok, i felt up to it and was going a little stir-crazy just sitting. I woul have felt better in more familiar care, so to speak.
been a little better about kid food stains on clothes. the next time around i'm feeliong a little self conscious about the stains and such, like it'snot fair tp dd2 because she'll always be getting hand-me-downs and to her they shoul feel just as new as big sisters clothes (used or otherwise)
been more upfront with my folks about things wanted and not, granted they did try some. they got us with dd1, the graco travel system. I wish we had told them we had a nice bob stroller, )thanks rei staff deals!) and just wanted the bucket seat and maybe a set for making the seat fir the BOB.
more i'm sure, lambs to check!