I have the opportunity to make some changes and am looking to learn from what has worked well for others.
I have a 4yo DD and 15mo DS. I really feel like I have had the best of both worlds for working and SAHMing. I took a year off when DD was born and jumped on the learning curve of managing a home. Then I went back full-time for two years and learned to do everything I was doing in 1/4 of the time ;-) I took another year off with DS and once again jumped on the learning curve of parenting a preschooler and parenting two kids. Since October I've been back 32hrs a week overlapping schedules with DH and keeping daycare to two days a week.
I don't need laundry tips. We run a tight ship at home and since DS was born we have made some major strides towards equality in our marriage and division of labor. What I am looking for is moving beyond the day-to-day. I would like a challenge in my life beyond finishing the housework before 9 p.m.
This fall DD will be in kindergarten and life will change. I want to be available weekends for DD so I'm going to change my work days to school days and likely go full-time to cover the extra child care. DD will most likely be in the before/after care program at her school and DS will go full-time at our beloved day home. DH is negotiating with his boss to get off of shiftwork so hopefully I will not be the solo parent after 50% of my working days. We are also casually considering a second car and seriously considering a move to a more family-friendly neighborhood (currently living in 700sf apartment in inner city.) What I am hoping is that these changes will open doors and create balance in our lives, but I don't want to squander the opportunity.