Ok, I'm going to try to give a thorough verbal description of what's going on - if it's not clear enough, please ask. But I'm very concerned by this, so anybody who has run across something similar, please speak up.
This morning as DS and I were laying in bed he peed again, and I realized that he had just soaked his dipe beyond capacity, peed through the wool cover and soaked the bed. So I stripped him down immediately, and his penis was still ballooned (is that a word?). The tip of it looked like a mushroom with the inside of the foreskin creating the dome of the mushroom, and on that soft shiny skin were what looked like red stripes running from the crown of the dome down towards the edge (if you imagine a mushroom, that makes more sense). I couldn't get a good look because it was dim in the bedroom and he was squirming, so I grabbed the camera and pinned him while I took a couple pictures so I could blow it up to see what was going on.
It doesn't look like infection, it looks like actual tears in the interior of the foreskin running that 1/4 inch or so that was exposed in 3 (?) places - what I would imagine would happen if someone tried to retract him. But no one ever has. And he had been in his dipe for 12 hours or so, since bedtime last night, and I don't think he can get his hand in there.
We have been battling a nasty rash for a while now - it's finally healed up, but one poopy can set it off again.
I just don't know what to think - what caused it, or what to do about it. And while his ped has never retracted him or made any of the stupid suggestions so many of you run into, I'm still terrified to take him in because the first thing they're gonna want to do is retract him to see what's going on.
I covered it with aloe vera gel - which is what I've been using on his butt, but I just don't know what to think or do at this point.
Oh, and he's been crying with pee and grabbing himself (through the dipe) a LOT the last few days, not consistently though.
ETA - over half an hour later, we changed his dipe, and it's still not back to normal. It's no longer looking like a mushroom, but it's still partially exposed and I guess swollen, maybe?
And I guess I should clarify that at no point could I see the glans - this is entirely the foreskin.