I started going to this new doctor (psychiatrist) to manage my meds for anxiety/ADD issues and for a little help dealing with all the stress of going back to work full-time after being a SAHM to my 2 year-old. He wanted to put me on stimulants for ADD and I told him I couldn't b/c I was still nursing. He went into this big explanation of how I'm making it harder for my daughter to separate and how one of the biggest childhood issues is learning to separate from the breast. She needs to find other ways to sooth herself, like music, rocking, books, a stuffed animal, etc. to sooth herself. Blah, blah blah. I don't know how "separate" he expects her to be at this age or where the research is to back up his claims.
Anyway, I told him that she has plenty of time to learn these skills and that she is only 2.5 years old. I said that the recommendation of the WHO is to nurse until 2 yo and I asked him if I am supposed to abruptly stop at exactly 2 years... I'm 7 months past it, so has my time expired? I also shared that the world average for weaning is 4.2 years and that our society pushes weaning and independence early. I told him that just because I don't conform the the societal norms for this country doesn't mean I'm harming my daughter and that is perfectly natural. Even though I don't plan to do child led weaning, many people do and so I am not alone.
Tirade over. I'm so angry that he thinks I am somehow harming my daughter and questioning my parenting decisions. I did not go to him for parenting advice anyway, I am feeling guilty leaving my daughter for so many hours a week... that is my problem, not nursing. I just had to vent and ask for support from those who understand were I am coming from. Now I have to switch doctors again... the one I loved retired.
Why are these messages out there? If I were in a more vulnerable state I may have taken his advice and believed his supposed "expertise." An M.D. in psychiatry and a porsche do not qualify you as a parenting expert.
Thanks. I'm trying not to question myself over what he said, but for some reason it bothers me that some people think that what I am doing is somehow wrong.