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Poll Results: Shoes on or off

Poll expired: Feb 19, 2011  
  • 48% (53)
    Take your shoes off! All those germs and dirt you are tracking in--gross!
  • 2% (3)
    Leave your shoes on! I don't want to see or smell your feet! And I don't want foot funguses and stuff spread in my house!
  • 49% (54)
    Whatever is most comfortable to you/depends on weather/other circumstances/how filthy the shoes are.
110 Total Votes  
post #21 of 80

Shoes on, because feet smell.  Especially mine...Sheepish.gif

post #22 of 80

Take those shoes off! It is rainy here 8 months outta 12.. I don't like the mud all over the floors.

post #23 of 80
Shoes off! I lived for a little while in a country where it is the cultural norm to remove shoes, and it just makes sense to me. It feels like a gesture of respect somehow, an acknowledgement that you are in a personal space now, maybe?

We weren't militant about guests removing shoes until our children tested positive for elevated lead levels. One of the measures that the State's lead-awareness literature suggests for reducing lead dust in your house is to make sure shoes come off. Apparently there is lead dust all over the outdoors as a legacy from leaded house paint and leaded gasoline. It clings to shoes because of static. We now ask guests to remove their shoes and cite that medical reason if someone questions it (but we let it go if someone seems really bothered....this has only come up once). I keep a basket of many airplane socks and assorted slippers by the door for guests. I wash those after someone wears them, of course.

When we go visiting, I just bring our indoor slippers with us.
post #24 of 80

Shoes off.  We lived in a country where that was the norm and once I got used to it I much preferred it.

 

But I don't actually ask anyone to take their shoes off in our house - I just lead by example, LOL.  If a visitor is more comfortable with their shoes on, then that's fine too.  

post #25 of 80
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Originally Posted by AutumnAir View Post

Shoes off.  We lived in a country where that was the norm and once I got used to it I much preferred it.

 

But I don't actually ask anyone to take their shoes off in our house - I just lead by example, LOL.  If a visitor is more comfortable with their shoes on, then that's fine too.  


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After living in Guam and Japan for 10 years, I really can't stand shoes in the house.  However, like the pp, I don't make people take their shoes off.

post #26 of 80
Lol this thread topic just never dies does it?

It's totally a regional thing and everywhere I've lived the rule is shoes off. I like the rule because it's cleaner. I do however make sure I'm wearing shoes with socks when visiting so I don't have to walk around somebody else's house with bare feet.
post #27 of 80

Shoes off makes a lot of sense and I've always meant to incorporate it into my home.  But it has never happened for a couple of reasons.

 

I taught yoga and pilates for a lot of years and I've seen first hand how uncomfortable taking shoes off makes some people.  So I don't think I could ever enforce that in my house.  The slipper thing sounds nice, but I would feel awkward and uncomfy wearing someone elses slippers...so it's not something I'd expect others to do.

 

I am a huge emetaphobic and not a fan of germs.  Yet I've always lived in germy "shoe" houses and haven't caught a stomach bug since fourth grade.  My dd is school age and only ever had one tummy bug despite crawling around the floors and eating/licking who knows what off of them.  So I guess in my mind the risk of shoes in the house seems pretty minimal to me by now.

 

We are hippy type people though and rarely wear shoes anyways, especially in the house. 

post #28 of 80

I picked C, although... I'd prefer your shoes came off and, if you're going upstairs, your shoes ARE coming OFF.

post #29 of 80
Shoes off, for the primary reason that I rent and have beige carpet in LR. I don't want to pay for damage.

But also because I hate to clean up after other people. I'm always without shoes at home.
post #30 of 80

Shoes off here.  When someone stops by I have usually *just* washed the floors in preparation for their visit so for them to track dirt in I feel is disrespectful.

post #31 of 80

Found an interesting article about having a "shoes on" policy:

 

http://www.startribune.com/yourvoices/104022603.html

 

It's such an interesting cultural divide. Really, I just try to follow whatever is the norm for the house I'm visiting, but in my house we don't have a hard and fast rule. The kids like to wear special shoes in the house sometimes (usually really noisy high heels) or they run around barefoot when I'm freezing. I don't like to keep my feet cooped up in tight shoes, but wearing my fake Uggs w/o socks really keeps my feet warm. We're just pretty relaxed about it all. Definitely not germophobes or pristine housekeepers here. We just want people to be comfortable and if that means no shoes that's great, and if that means keeping their shoes on that's great, too.

post #32 of 80
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Originally Posted by beanma View Post

Found an interesting article about having a "shoes on" policy:

 

http://www.startribune.com/yourvoices/104022603.html

 

It's such an interesting cultural divide. Really, I just try to follow whatever is the norm for the house I'm visiting, but in my house we don't have a hard and fast rule. The kids like to wear special shoes in the house sometimes (usually really noisy high heels) or they run around barefoot when I'm freezing. I don't like to keep my feet cooped up in tight shoes, but wearing my fake Uggs w/o socks really keeps my feet warm. We're just pretty relaxed about it all. Definitely not germophobes or pristine housekeepers here. We just want people to be comfortable and if that means no shoes that's great, and if that means keeping their shoes on that's great, too.


Love that article, I was cracking up because that's EXACTLY how I thought about it until we started going shoe-free!!

And we don't live in Canada but I always tell friends they can keep their shoes on and they always remove them anyway. Oh wait I think the Canada thing was in the other thread, now I'm getting confused lol. Oh well.

So we are trying to figure out what to do with our doormat... we have an outdoor one & an indoor one, and we used to keep the indoor one right inside the door but now I'm wondering if it makes more sense to keep it right beyond the entryway (as you walk into the rest of the house)... because with the icky weather, our entryway is now filled with dirt from kicking our shoes off, and then the dirt sticks to our feet, so I feel like I need the mat to dust off my stocking feet before traipsing through the rest of the house. Boy is this no-shoes thing complicated!! innocent.gif
post #33 of 80

I picked C although we've got a no shoes policy at home. I don't require guests to remove their shoes, but they are more than welcome to. Ideally I would have a basket of guest slippers/house shoes/etc. available so that my guests would feel more open towards removing their shoes. But I don't so I'm not picky when someone comes over to visit. I do ask if I should remove my shoes when I visit someone else's home, though.

post #34 of 80

Shoes off here, and I much, much prefer that guests remove their shoes, but don't make a big deal if they do not. I'm in the Upper Midwest where everyone removes, though, so it rarely comes up that someone (other than kids, whom I feel comfortable correcting) will walk past the entryway with shoes.

 

As for visiting others, I generally have socks on, but I do keep a pair of footies in my purse to slip on if I don't. Sometimes I bring slippers, but generally I forget.

post #35 of 80

I prefer to be barefoot or in my socks, so I generally don't wear shoes in my house or others' homes. I don't mind if people wear shoes in my house. I've got two dogs, so it's not like my floors are sparkling clean and germ-free.

post #36 of 80

I prefer shoes off in my home. If I have a baby or toddler who in constantly on the floor, picking things off the floor and putting them in her mouth it's more important to keep shoes off the clean floors. When I was growing up my father, who trained race horses and ran horse farms, always removed his boots when coming in the house even when others kept their shoes on.

post #37 of 80

I am a shoes off type person.  But I really don't care about dirt being tracked in (I love vacuuming and sweeping LOL) or germs (I never give a second thought to germs, really).  I just don't like the sound of shoes scraping on the carpet, or the clunk of them on hardwood.  It just really grates me.  My mother has hardwood floor throughout her house and all I hear is click click click wherever she walks.  Argh!!  But it's her house!  And the soles of shoes make a sort of snagging sound on carpet that makes my teeth chatter.

post #38 of 80

Shoes off because we have a crawler.

post #39 of 80

shoes off. always been that way. even before kids. 

 

but i dont insist. 

 

if you dont its ok.

 

but would prefer you take your shoes off. 

 

however i also cannot go to bed without washing my feet, and i have to change my clothes once i get home. 

post #40 of 80

No shoes in the house is my general rule, and no bare feet outside unless you want to be carried to the bath tub to wash them off before walking around in the house. I generally tell people they can leave their shoes in the entryway the first time or two they come over if they don't take them off before I say anything (most people do) and I've never had anyone get upset or seem uncomfortable. After someone has been over once or twice I figure they know my preference. Generally I will ask moms with their kids to take their shoes off if they don't do it, because it's one thing for someone to come sit on my couch and chat with their shoes on and another for someone to be running all over the house and climbing on my furniture with shoes on. Plus, I don't really feel at ease if someone is in my home with shoes on and I wouldn't feel comfortable putting my baby on the floor to play. All of my mom friends take off their shoes anyway, and the few times I've had a mom over who wore shoes in the house we didn't really click anyway so it's never been an issue.

 

If I am having more than a few people over (who are not moms with their kids) I usually don't say anything because most of my childless friends don't think to take their shoes off and it's not fair to those that do to have to walk around on dirty floors.  That's another thing, though, I really dislike going to shoe-free houses with dirty floors. I feel that if you expect people to walk around your home in their socks you should have clean floors. I have a good friend who has a dog and pretty dirty floors and it grosses me out to walk around her house with my shoes off, and then to have to stick my dirty feet into my shoes. But it's her home and her rule and of course I respect that.

 

Where I'm from, very very few people had shoe free houses, when I was a kid at least. y parents (and most of my friends parents) would not let me take my shoes off in other people's houses, it was just not done. I could take my shoes off at my grandparents house if I was going to be there for a good while but otherwise it was just way too informal.

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