I guess this belongs in this forum as dd is toddling around and turns one on Saturday.
I am really lost here. DD is very bright, on track developmentally, but like many mamas on here, sleep is a huge issue and always has been. It is literally breaking my heart and we are all suffering. Our current arrangement just isn;t workingand neither ios anything else. I posted threads in life with a babe along the way about dd...my "bounce to sleep baby" for nearly one year we've had to bounce her to sleep on a yoga ball...in the evening after about an hour dh transfers her to me in bed and I nurse her. In an ideal world this works and she sleeps and nurses for the night....I ahve struggled hard with this, we have even shipped our yoga ball with us when we travel, and we are on the fourth one after literally wearing them out. Here are some of the problems: 1.) dd is the leats cooperative she has ever been about bouncing and even though it has the highest success rate bedtime is a HUGE struggle every night and every napis a huge struggle even fi she is absolutely exhausted. We have a fairly steady routine, tot he point where dh brushes ehr teeth then she brings me ehr bedtime book and even gets the ergo and says "daht! daht!" meaning " nap" I have consistenlt tried other things nearly every day for this whole year such as tryign to nurse to sleep and even holding her down slightly so she wouldn;'t wander off before bouncing...or just letting her whine while I did choires till she was tired. The other night we resorted to taking a drive...she was sick, but still given that she barely slept all day or the nigth before and could harldy keep her eyes open, the fact that bouncing, walking, rocking, or just letting ehr play didn;t work after hours is testament to her ability to stay up. We strapepd ehr in the car which she HATES (cant even do a 5 min drive and I still sit in the back with her) and ...we let her CIO...I guess. I was there, offered to nurse, console, sing etc. I was right ebside her. I felt awful but she needed to sleep and so did we and nothing else would work.
2.) witht eh bouncing she struggles forvere against it, climbing out of the ergo, crying etc. And my back is startignt o hurt wearing her on the fron even after justa few mins
3.) dh is havign to get up multiple tiems a night for months to bounce her back to sleep because nothing else works. Generally in the middle of the night she is mroe receptive to it and it.
at this time I spend hours a day putting her to sleep. I don;t eat or drink properly, and dishes don;'t get done. Our lifwe is now revolving around this. At this time...this moment she is wailing and has been for hours. She isn;t in pain. She is just exhausted and will not surrender...won;t nurse down, won't boucne, stroller no...she can do this almost endlessly.
I seriously wonder what is wrong with ehr. I don't even expect her to sleep alone, I only ever sneak away when we do get ehr down to pee. I am going bonkers. What do I do? should she be evaluated? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have been through PPD and PTSD and I still struggle but ehaven knows a 1 yo who cries for hours and won';t sleep will send me back oevr the edge if I'm nto very careful.