My son Elijah has multiple challenges. He has bipolar disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, separation anxiety disorder, social anxiety disorder, ADHD:I, severe processing disorder, severe executive functioning disorder, severe memory deficit and a disorder of written expression. He currently attend a private Christian school that has wonderful special needs services. The school itself is not the problem, his classroom teacher is. Elijah is supposed to be allowed to go at 3 pre-arranged times per day (as soon as he gets to school, after morning recess, and after afternoon recess) to the resource room to use a squish machine they have there (like the one Temple Grandin invented). It really helps him. He also goes other times of the day for other help, we are still working out the details on that as the last half of the list was just diagnosed in January. He has been coming home from school increasingly agitated and I was not sure why. He didn't want to talk about it. Today he broke down and told me that his classroom teacher has been using removing his resource time as a punishment. I know he is telling the truth because we already had this issue in November which is why the resource teacher set up the 3 times a day schedule. He said that she says going to the resource room is a "privilege" and that he doesn't get to go there if he doesn't work up to par. Today she took his resource time away for not getting his boots and jacket on fast enough at recess. That is so completely unacceptable IMO and completely counterproductive because the resource time helps him regroup and refocus. He cried for 3 hours this afternoon because he feels so stressed at school and is afraid to tell his teacher that he needs to go. He says that his resource teacher doesn't know what is going on because he is afraid to tell her because he thinks the classroom teacher will get mad.
I am trying to decide how to best approach this situation. Obviously it needs to be dealt with as soon as possible. I am considering keep him home tomorrow, he is that stressed and agitated. Any input or opinions are appreciated.