He told me to "tell DD that she'll see her daddy and grandma soon." I replied that he could always tell her himself. I'm not telling her anything about this planned visit until it actually happens. I've tried to explain to her what's going on, and since he doesn't ever call my phone, I'm pretty sure that she thinks she's talking to SO when/if she talks to him at his mother's. She's really smart but I just can't figure out how to make her understand. I'm also not going to force her to understand, since he doesn't make an effort.
I think it's kind of BS that he REFUSES to call her on my cell phone, yet wants to see her in person. I explained that he would only be seeing her under my supervision, and I got "blah blah blah you're on a power trip blah blah blah." I told him it wasn't up for debate and he replied, "Whatever. I just want to see my daughter."
(Not to mention the continued grief I'm getting for not giving him a set date for moving. He doesn't understand that I'm not going to give up a job where I bring home $400-700 per week if I don't have an equally good job lined up. He thinks I should just work for minimum wage like he does.)