I can't win - visitation offers. (Update #19) - Page 2

[Halfasianmomma]

"Considering how little you've seen DD in the past X years, I think it's in DD's best interest to be with someone she is familiar with."

Response: "blah blah quack blah, you're a horrible person denying me the opportunity to see my child, blah blah"

"I'm sorry you feel this way. This is however, non-negotiable"

Said with a smile. :)

[MariesMama]

He told me to "tell DD that she'll see her daddy and grandma soon."  I replied that he could always tell her himself.  I'm not telling her anything about this planned visit until it actually happens.  I've tried to explain to her what's going on, and since he doesn't ever call my phone, I'm pretty sure that she thinks she's talking to SO when/if she talks to him at his mother's.  She's really smart but I just can't figure out how to make her understand.  I'm also not going to force her to understand, since he doesn't make an effort.

I think it's kind of BS that he REFUSES to call her on my cell phone, yet wants to see her in person.  I explained that he would only be seeing her under my supervision, and I got "blah blah blah you're on a power trip blah blah blah."  I told him it wasn't up for debate and he replied, "Whatever.  I just want to see my daughter."

(Not to mention the continued grief I'm getting for not giving him a set date for moving.  He doesn't understand that I'm not going to give up a job where I bring home $400-700 per week if I don't have an equally good job lined up.  He thinks I should just work for minimum wage like he does.)

[MissLotus]

He wants you to tell her she'll see her "daddy"?  He does not deserve that title.  A total deadbeat.

[New_Natural_Mom]

You need to have a custody order filed with the court before visitation (I believe) in order to prevent him from just taking off with her.  You should contact a lawyer well before the vacation to make sure you and your daughter are protected.

[MariesMama]

Our custody order simply states that I am the custodial parent (sole physical custody) and that he has "reasonable parenting time." 

Would the fact that her BC has no father listed help me if he were to take off with her?

[Kwan*Yin]

I would think a custody order would be enough to appease the police in a situation like that. I would not leave them alone. That is one obscure custody order!