Originally Posted by Super~Single~Mama
Do you have links or info on the actual numbers? I'm curious is all.
I do think though, that b/c not all home daycares are licensed, that there are probably home daycares that are not safe, and where abuse happens. I'm not really sure why the statement is offensive - the pp didn't say that abuse happens in ALL home daycares, or even a lot of them, just that abuse does happen. I personally would never use a daycare that wasn't licensed, but I also know that home daycares are smaller generally, and have fewer caregivers generally.
I personally haven't liked the home daycares that I've seen, and found a center that I felt very comfortable with, mostly b/c everyone can see whats going on in all the classrooms - the doors are always open (with a baby gate across them so no one escapes), so everyone can see whats going on in the classrooms. Anyway, I'm interested in seeing the numbers.
This comes from "protecting the Gift" by gavin de becker. a very good book. every parent should read it.
i think he lists numbers in there, but i don't have it in front of me.
the idea is that day care centers are safer for a number of reasons:
1) although a licensed in home day care worker needs to pass finger print checks and have their home inspected, that doesn't guarantee that everyone who enters their house is safe. maybe they are a sweet sweet mama lady, but did you know that 3 times a week her creepy brother stops by for lunch? that her older son watches porn on his computer with his door open afterschool? no, there isn't anyway to check that.
2) in a day care center, they should be watching carefully who comes into the building. you can ask to see their records of sign in sheets, there are levels of authority to check the workers and no one but the workers would be spending time with your children.
3) the best place is to find a daycare center is one that is attached to a work site - a place where the workers drop off their kids. sometimes those places will allow non worker families to use the daycare center. the idea is if some or most of the parents know each other, they are more likely to talk about their day care experience and if one parent thinks somthing is off then they are more likely to ask another parent for their idea or experience. if they both agree something is wrong, they will go do something about it. also worksite day cares usually encourage parents to visit during the day. the more involved and present a parent is, the more likely they will notice something weird or just the high level of parent involvement will discourage weirdos from working there.
no, daycare centers aren't usually as warm as a home center, but he makes some compelling arguments for safety.
when i read that i thought it made a lot of sense. Read his book for a more thorough understanding. it actually makes you less paranoid and gives you ( and your kid) tools to keep them safe.