Wait with me!

[sagewinna]

Feeling antsy today, anyone want to share how long they have been waiting, what kind of adoption, what age you are looking for? I know it's kind of in the non-DDC thread but that seems to have no action lately.

We decided to seriously consider foster-adoption in January 2010, started the process in March 2010. We are in Northern California and we are using an agency. Our agency works with cases that are headed toward TPR, but our state doesn't generally TPR until there is an adoptive home in place, which is pretty scary. We know several couples that have foster adopted here so we have guides, thank goodness! We are looking for a child under 3, boy or girl, any ethnicity.

Approved in early October 2010, put on hold late October, back in the game as of February 1st 2011. We had a pregnancy after 7 years of infertility, were on hold because of that, then lost the baby late November and had a waiting period before we could look again.

We submitted our homestudy a few weeks ago for a 2 month old, an 11 month old, an 18 month old (since placed) and twin newly 2 year olds. We go in Friday to see the new profiles and throw our hat in the ring again. Because of budget and staffing cuts in the counties, the wait time to even hear anything back is pretty unpredictable.

Somebody, talk to me! ;)

Kim

[Marcimama]

Kim, I've shyly followed your journey. Know my best wishes are with you and hoping that one of those little ones (or 2) are your son or daughter!

We haven't waited long, but by our expected travel, will have. 

We started moving forward this fall, but a few things fell through. It was hard, but good too.

We just got done with our home study about the same time we were matched with our 3 yo boy, "I". He is in Uganda. The same day we were "tentatively matched" with a 3 month old baby boy "E". They have had trouble getting 2 family members to agree to give up custody. Convienently the member that does NOT want to care for him doesn't want the family to relinquish him, though he doesn't want to care or provide for him and has made that very clear. :-/

So this week the advocating ministry is making a trip to where the baby's grandma lives to get her word, as it will be final. I am hoping either way she will give her consent or that she will care for him as he is not getting good care at all where he is at. :-(

So, we will wait for word about E and also wait until we can get out there... late in the summer. Shesh! August never looked so far away!

[WifeMomChiro]

We're not officially waiting, but we're paper-chasing.  I hope to join you in the waiting game within a month or two.  We shall see.

[sagewinna]

Marci, I hope your wait isn't too tedious! *hug*

WMC, good luck on your paperwork and all. It was very daunting for us in the beginning, there was so much!

AFM, we go tomorrow to look again... Our social worker called though, and she asked if we are open to sibling sets. I have been comfortable with that from the beginning, my DH not so much, but he is feeling more open to it now so we will likely submit ourselves for brothers that are 2 and 4 and sisters that are 1 and 4.

[excitedtobeamom]

We started an adoption from Thailand in November 2008.  We are now next in line to receive a referral.  It still could be a ways out.  Last summer we sign up with a local domestic adoption agency as well.  I am getting better at waiting but I really would love to get a call about our next child!!  We are approved for up to two children 0-3.

[sagewinna]

Wow, Thailand! Sounds like you've done a lot of waiting all ready, I hope you get matched soon. Waiting is really freaking hard.

Well, we submitted for the boys (2 and newly 4), the girls (1 and 4) and for a 3 month old baby boy (We found out about him last night, he wasn't part of the profiles we looked at yesterday morning). I know babies that young don't come through often and I think feelings about our lost baby came rushing in and I had some panic and freaking out moments last night. In the midst of that I wanted him SO BAD, a baby!! Today I am more level headed and feel more at ease with whatever God has planned for us. What a roller coaster. I told my husband I don't know how to find a good center/groundedness through this, it's been so tumultuous so far. Writing here helps a lot. I don't really fit with the moms who are ttc after a loss, yk?

How is everyone else today?

I found a wooden airplane toy at the thrift store today. :)

[Smithie]

We had our TB tests and fingerprints yesterday! (Yes, we've done all this before. Some stuff was only good for a year and has expired, and some has to be re-done for the Foster side of the program.)

The last visitor to my house is Public Health, which I am expecting the first week of March. Then our file will be complete, and I would be shocked to have a long wait for a placement given the level of need there is (although the longer it is, the better I'll feel, because it will mean that our social worker is taking us seriously and looking around for a placement that is highly likely to be permanent). 

I am so. tired. of chasing paper and luring overworked government employees out to my house ;-) I really wish we could work with an agency like sagewinna's! Unfortunately, our DSS only contracts agencies for therapeutic kids, with the exception of a large and active program that harshly discriminates based on religion. (You don't just have to be a Christian, you have to submit a written "testimony" for theological analysis and a list of references from the right kind of religious institutions.)

We are looking to adopt a boy, ages 2-8, and prepared to go through a couple of temporary foster placements if necessary.