I think this is a very interesting post that raises questions both practical and philosophical. I already addressed the practical aspects, but now (and forgive me that this is a bit tangential to the discussion at hand!) I'd like to talk a bit about one of the philosophical aspects.
Which is, I wanted to say that one thing that irks me is what I feel is an over-reliance on the whole West/non-West argument. That is, when people (especially within the natural family community because we tend to be especially defensive of our at-times unconventional choices) say something along the lines of, "Oh, that's just how we do it in the WEST (or the U.S., as is sometimes similarly invoked), but no one else is the world does that!"
The problem I have with this argument is that:
a) I think it's a bit offensive because it implies that a basic short-sightenedness on the part of the person who follows whatever "Western" or "American" norm is under question, and ignores the possibility that they are making a decision every bit as conscientious as the person who is doing it the "non-Western" way. (ie, just because I don't feel comfortable making love whilst nursing doesn't necessarily mean that I'm close-minded or bound up in my own repressive cultural norms)
b) It is really reductive because there is SOMETIMES (not in all the cases that this argument is invoked!) the patronizing (even racist) implication that "non-Western" people somehow have a better grasp of what it is to live a close to our human instincts as possible--this is offensive because it either implies that certain people ("Westerners") don't have access to that kind of intuition naturally OR (worse) is embedded with a sort of camouflaged racism not even perceived by the person repeating this trope--because what is the implication? That non-Westerners are somehow closer to their animal instincts because they aren't saddled with all of the knowledge and science and modernity that "Westerners" are?
c) it depends on binaries that are in themselves problematic and in many of the cases that they are raised, not very well understood. That is, what do we mean when we say, "Well, that's just how we do it in THE WEST. No one does it like that outside of the west." Because I must ask in all earnestness, What are we referring to, exactly, when we say The West? Are we referring to specific instances of cultural differences that we understand well (in Russia they do this, in Azerbaijan they do that, and I know that because of X), or are we simply invoking a vague notion of cultural differences that we think must exist and which serve our argument?
To the last point I will say that I have traveled a lot throughout Europe and Asia (and the US and Canada!) and I have been fascinated by cultural practices different from my own. But I have also been surprised at some of the similarities. I spent a lot of time in Europe, I lived for several years in Asia and traveled extensively throughout SE Asia and I have been married to men of two different European countries. I also study languages and culture full-time (Spanish and Chinese). And I am naturally skeptical when people sort of casually toss off this whole "West," "non-West" argument. I believe that a point can be made without relying on this argument--and oftentimes a point that is more elegant and carefully considered.
I guess, ultimately, my point is that I would love to see us in this community continue to probe these kinds of questions, but perhaps being more thoughtful and careful in some of our responses!