My MIL has had two strokes in the last two weeks and most likely won't live out the weekend, and is unable to communicate. 11yo dd was with us when I found mil collapsed after the first stroke but hasn't wanted to go to the hospital, and hasn't seen her since the collapse. She knew when mil was at the first hospital that children weren't allowed, but she would be allowed now. She understands her grandmothers condition, and is reluctant to see her.
I understand that it is hard to see her in this drastically reduced condition, but I think she will regret it the rest of her life if she doesn't have some sort of closure. It is hard for me to push her, but I really don't want to set her up for regrets.