I was talking to a mom today who said this. UNDIGNIFIED?
Wow...So apparently, we are uncover-upers are breastfeeding without dignity. Better go get that cover...
Most people have a deeply held (won't admit) belief that bf is somehow sexual, I believe that to be the root of the various "modesty" arguments. When they see (or imagine) a babe at the breast, they aren't seeing a baby feeding, they are seeing
a person with their mouth on a woman's nipple.
Apparently they are unwilling or unable to take into account the age of the person, the relationship between the person and the woman, and the exact reason why the two are "doing that".
That reminds me, I haven't been to my favorite site in a while - here's a link to a site that is the antidote to mainstream anti-bf attitudes -
Hmmm. I don't really understand the undignified thing. Granted, I cover up when I have to NIP due to my own shyness/embarrassment/fear/etc etc. But that's my choice, kwim? Actually, I do believe if more women NIP uncovered, then maybe women like me won't be as worried about NIP as it becomes more normal to see. It really doesn't have much to do with dignity or lack thereof, imo.
I feed EVERYWHERE uncovered. If my DD is hungry, I feed her. Even if I'm just walking down the street (I've got that one down pat). I just don't understand how people have this view - they're babies and they need to eat. End of story. I always figure that if I can pull out a granola bar and chomp on it anywhere, my baby can do the same. I also wonder - would they prefer a screaming baby to having to witness a mother nurse? Ridiculous!
i was at the peds office for a well baby vist this week and in a waiting area with my twins my dh and one other couple with a 10 day old infant. i was chatting to them about their questions about if spitting up was normal and letting them know i was in he same boat, we were having a nice chat. i started breastfeeding my 8 week old son, the lady asked, with a disgusted look on her face, for me to turn around.
i said "why? im just breastfeeding"
she said she did not want her dh to see my boob (my ds was already latched on and with my nursing shirt barely anything showed)
i said "nothing to see, im just breastfeeding"
she said, "you know there is cover for stuff like that?
i then said very proudly, Yeah those are for ladies who want to use them or are ashamed, and I'm not BECAUSE I'M JUST BREASTFEEDING!"
Staring at a nursing mother's naked breast, in hopes of getting a peek at her nipple, is way more undignified. Don't like it? Don't look.
I nurse everywhere and since I'm bra-free (I wear camisoles only), it's usually over the top of my v-neck or boatneck shirt. I've fed my babies everywhere from church to funerals to subway trains to city parks to airports to dinner parties...at the table! They're babies, they're eating, and we're mammals so my milk is what they eat. Anyone who gets offended by that should really consider seeking therapy IMO. It's not my job to cater to someone else's irrational neuroses.
Undignified? Forgive me for being coarse but...
I wasn't worried about "dignified" when I got pregnant with this baby, with my feet up in the air and my 3 yr old watching Barney way too loud in the next room.
I also wasn't worried about "dignity" when I squatted, shat myself, let sweat drip off of me, and tore my cooch pushing this baby out.
I sure as hell ain't gonna worry about what somebody thinks is "dignified" now that I'm just trying to feed my baby. At least I have pants on!
No, I'm not undignified, thank you very much. I have very large breasts and a very distractable baby and I don't want the world seeing my bits because it flusters me, stresses me out, delays my let down and makes my LO even crankier.
I totally respect those of you who feel covers aren't needed, but without mine I'd never leave the house. And I think the OP is right in her frustration that some people believe a cover is required for the comfort of others, but please let's not turn this into a thread bashing women who feel the need to cover.