Wanting more children but overwhemed with the ones I've got! - Page 2

[loudmama]

I'm glad I found this thread. Man, I was on the fence until we had unprotected sex recently. I got my period, which given the timing, wasn't surprising. But then DH said he was kind of bummed that I got my period. So, since then, I've been really wanting to have a baby! It's so impractical for so many reasons...DH has regular back issues & finances suck. My oldest will be 10 on 3/26 & my youngest will be 5 on 4/17. We got rid of all our baby clothes.

We were pretty sure we were ok with 2, but didn't want to do anything permanent yet. I'll be 39 in July, so while this is not old, it on the old end to be having another baby......

Ugh! If money were not an issue I would probably be pregnant already.

L

[Storm Bride]

I haven't read the whole thread. I have four (18 in two weeks, 7, 5 & 20 months). I've always wanted four, and I'm glad I have them, but in some ways, I should have stopped at three. But, the reasons have very little to do with the number of kids. DS2 is more work than the other three combined. I'm older than I expected to be when I had my last (had her almost two weeks after my 41st birthday). My journey to get here involved traumatic birth (unwanted c-sections), secondary infertility, multiple miscarriages and a stillbirth. Between the PTSD, depression, physical havoc of the surgeries, etc. I'm pretty wrecked.  If ds2 weren't so high needs, and if I hadn't fallen apart over the course of the last few years, I think things would look a lot different.

And, honestly - as wiped as I am, and as hard as it is (I get out of bed every morning, even after a full night's sleep, feeling as though I got no rest), I wouldn't trade it for the world. We had  photos of the kids done last year, when dd2 was about six months old. Every time I look at those pics of the four of them, I feel my whole body fill  up with the knowledge that this is exactly the family I was meant to have, and I wouldn't trade it for the world.

[raelize]

i have a different perspective to add.

i am one of 5 kids. i have 4 brothers. i love each and every brother so much.  we were POOR growing up.  i know that had i not had my younger three brothers i would have had more opportunities and more stuff, but honestly, i wouldn't trade any of them for anything in the world.  i am so glad i have them in my life, even when they drive me crazy.  

i have 2 kids, and i want another one.  really, i could probably have another 2, but i am willing to stop at 3 kids.  i know it is not realistic for everyone to have a large family or maybe even kids at all. but, i know that i cherish my siblings and want my kids to have something like what i have.

[major_mama11]

DH and I were just discussing this! He is from a 3 child family, and I am from a 2-child family. I always wished for more siblings growing up (although my sis is now my BFF, so can't complain). We have 2, and we're pretty sure we will go for a third next year. Financially, we don't feel like more than 3 is feasible. We would both have to work FT hours to afford more than 3, and we're both pretty happy with our current schedules, which allow us both a good amount of time at home. but enough money to get by.

[loudmama]

What has been interesting in this discussion is the difference in what men & women think. All of his friends (men) think he's even crazy for considering it. My friends (women) all say to go for it. Again, it's about money. We don't own a house. We live pay check to pay check. Our debt load is higher than it should be. And we really would need to get a bigger vehicle. Maybe even a bigger place. The idea is really pretty dumb, but part of me figures we'll figure it out.

This is so not logical!

L