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post #121 of 293

Excellent post JMJ. I also agree on the spacing thing: I realy don't know how any of this would work for a single mom of 3 little ones who needs to take the kids to Mass alone. I think maybe trying to find someone -a friendly grandma, maybe- to help may be the only way.

 

I also breastfed our dd at Mass until about 2.5, if memory serves me right. After that she had a bottle of water with for some time but she was not allowed to take it out herself. I also nursed after that, but out of church.

post #122 of 293

Great tips on Mass, JMJ, Trigger, and LessTraveledBy, I think it was? I have a 15 month old DS and we haven't done any foods but nursing, but sometimes I feel like I shouldn't even be doing that.  It's nice to have a clear picture of what has worked for other families, while trying to be sensitive to the older parishioners.  Although some of them seem to have a grudge against all babies/young children, and all you can do is pray for them!

post #123 of 293
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Although some of them seem to have a grudge against all babies/young children, and all you can do is pray for them!


Our parish has some older ladies who like to tell people exactly what they think. I always wanted them to talk to me, but somehow they managed to find the mamas who were more sensitive. I would have loved to tell them that Jesus was most likely nursed until at least 5. I also would have loved to tell them that babies belong with families and that God created us this way. So, sadly, I did think of what we did as education to those people who would have liked our dd to stay at home. At the age of six, she is a good example of a kid who has always been taken to Mass. She knows it is important and we have just about no problems with her behavior. I think it would be a whole lot more difficult, if she had been taken only once in a while, to keep the angry old ladies happy.

 

Then again, we also used to have a sweet, old nun at Mass, who always told us we should not take dd out, no matter how noisy she was, because it was God's house, and dd's home, also. Well, yeah... however, she would not have learned to be quiet with that method, and no one would have been able to concentrate at Mass, dd included. It just goes to show that, no matter what you do, there is someone sitting at Mass thinking you are doing it all wrong. ;) I think there have also been people who thought we got her to behave by spanking her outside of Church. (Ha! We are very GD.)

 

post #124 of 293

Something I read once and remind myself of whenever DD2 (just turned 3) loudly comments on something during Mass: a congregation without children is a congregation that is dying. And we have enough parishes that have problems getting enough people to fill the pews and to keep things going. 

Some kids are easier to reign in than others. Shushing pew-neighbors and derogatory comments do nothing to help. If you are terribly offended by a toddler roaming around the pew, bite your tongue, smile to the child, and offer it up to the Lord. Very few parents that I know of do not care enough to try. Most of us do the best we can, and are probably way more frustrated and annoyed with our rambunctious roving tots than any nearby fellow church-goer could ever be. 

post #125 of 293

Hi all! I am subbing, I haven't been here for a long time - I hate the changes to MDC. But I miss itsmile.gif

 

Glad to catch up with you all!

post #126 of 293

Snugglebugmom, we used to belong to a parish that had been only old people for a long time. But they knew a church with no young children was not going to survive, and as the parish changed to include more young families & babies, they were delighted! It was the most welcoming and friendly parish I ever saw, and it was wonderful! I am sorry that we were transferred and had to say goodbye to them. =( Just thought I'd share this positive story about parishes welcoming children, since they seem too infrequent sometimes! Oh, and there was a big foyer, but no "cry room" so there was no expectation that children never enter the sanctuary. I wish there were no cry rooms anywhere! It doesn't seem to help the children or the community to learn from each other...

 

LessTraveledBy--so true, there is no way to make everyone happy, but that is a cute story about the sweet old nun! Her heart was definitely in the right place, at least!

 

PatienceandLove, how are you doing? I've been thinking about you and your new baby...

post #127 of 293

Can I just say how much I love confession!

 

Dh and I were received into the Church last month through baptism and confirmation ( we also had the sacrament of marriage then) and I made my first confession today since being baptized. I feel so much better after receiving absolution and completing my penance. I was a little nervous last night trying to remember the order of how it should go and trying to figure out how to word my sins accurately yet succinctly. My godmother helped me with some of that though, deo gratias for godparents! 

post #128 of 293
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I and the baby are doing well.  We heard the heartbeat on the 21st.

The father and I are still deciding what will be best for the baby.

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I and the baby are doing well.  We heard the heartbeat on the 21st.

The father and I are still deciding what will be best for the baby.



 Forgive me, but didn't your sig used to state that you were "betrothed" to someone?  Is this the baby's father?

post #130 of 293
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That relationship ended quite a while ago, but thank you for inquiring.

 

And no.

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Can I just say how much I love confession!

 

Dh and I were received into the Church last month through baptism and confirmation ( we also had the sacrament of marriage then) and I made my first confession today since being baptized. I feel so much better after receiving absolution and completing my penance. I was a little nervous last night trying to remember the order of how it should go and trying to figure out how to word my sins accurately yet succinctly. My godmother helped me with some of that though, deo gratias for godparents! 



It is such a wonderful sacrament, isn't it? I love how clean I feel, inside and out, after I go.  I really should utilize the sacrament far more often than I do.  I find that when I regularly attend confession, it seems to be easier to avoid sin.

 

Arduinna- even as a cradle Catholic, I still struggle with that!  The Confession app, if you have a smartphone, is really quite helpful.  And the examination of conscience that it walks you through really helps with wording- and numbers. I had forgotten just how important it is to state just how often you are committing a sin.

post #132 of 293

I actually did use an app for my confession, I have both the iconfess and the confession app, still figuring out which one I like best as they are a little different from each other. It was helpful in wording my sins and also it was nice to have the reminder. LOL 

 

If I didn't post before, congratulations on the baby. I'm sorry about the relationship hug.gif

post #133 of 293
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That relationship ended quite a while ago, but thank you for inquiring.

 

And no.


 

Oh, I see.  Well, best wishes to the three of you as you sort this out.  As I mentioned when you had a pregnancy scare last year, I have BTDT and I understand.
 

 

post #134 of 293
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Oh, I see.  Well, best wishes to the three of you as you sort this out.  As I mentioned when you had a pregnancy scare last year, I have BTDT and I understand.
 

 



No such thing as a "scare".  There could be not the best time, but it's never a scare.

Unfortunatly, my own weakness with my sins have left brought me to where I am.  You would think by now that I would now that the sin of drunkeness and the sin of lust don't mix, and I really should avoid both of them.

 

Ah well... God saw fit to create a new life from my sin, so I will atone for my sins and praise Him for his wisdom and grace.

 

post #135 of 293
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No such thing as a "scare".  There could be not the best time, but it's never a scare.

Unfortunatly, my own weakness with my sins have left brought me to where I am.  You would think by now that I would now that the sin of drunkeness and the sin of lust don't mix, and I really should avoid both of them.

 

Ah well... God saw fit to create a new life from my sin, so I will atone for my sins and praise Him for his wisdom and grace.

 



 I'm glad you're OK with it, but I don't mind saying that I was scared out of my mind.  It was a wonderful opportunity to strengthen/deepen my relationship with Our Father, but I was scared nonetheless.

post #136 of 293

Glad that you and the baby are doing well, P & L, and I will pray that you figure out the best situation for all of you...

post #137 of 293

Feeling kind of blue today. Yesterday my sister was over and saw my Precious Feet pins I keep out to give away. Sister (with nasty tone) -What the hell are these? Me: They are called precious feet. They are the size and shape of a 10 week old baby in the womb. Sister(with angry face)  throws pin on table and sits in silence until kids come in from playing. "You guys are freaks." says sister as she leaves the room.

 

What makes me sad is how hurting I know she is from her abortion she had 20 years ago. I had one too, and I can completely relate. But of course she is completely prochoice and has left the Church.

 

anyway, just feeling sad.

post #138 of 293

moonshoes.... Boy, your sister was very rude. I am sorry you had to go through that! It is just not ok to treat anyone the way you were just treated! Just curious: What happens now? Your sister gets to have her little fit, knowingly trying to hurt your feelings, and then everything goes on as if it never happened? (I feel like she acted like a child and should be confronted. BUT, families are difficult. There are no real difficult conversations with my extended family, ever....)

 

You are all in my prayers, especially PatienceandLove.

 

Our dear, (I dare say) holy, priest was just buried. It was much harder for me that I had thought. I mean, 90-year-olds do die and often are well prepared for their departure from this life. Yet, I will miss him! He is the only very saintly person I have got the honor to see weekly. On the other hand, it is a reallty amazing thought to think that someone I saw every Sunday is likely in heaven now. He helped our family so much on earth that I have no doubt he will continue to do so in heaven. In addition to all he did here, he has already taught me so much after his death. I have kept thinking of how he lived for God every moment of every day. How he always made a gift of himself to others. It makes me wonder what can honestly be said about me after I die. "She became bitter, angry and cynical after she was never blessed with another biological child, as she felt she was a better mom than most and should have been entitled" does not sound exactly like what I am hoping for... ;) So, I am trying to be very conscious to let go of my wants and to make a gift of myself to others. I want to accept God's plan for me, completely.

 

I find it highly interesting how people (even "good Catholics") respond when something very painful takes place. Some are able to find strength in God and some even to offer up their suffering. Yet, many turn away and become angry with God, even lose their faith completely. I have been trying to figure out what the factor is that devides people into the ones being able to accept the suffering- at least at some point- and those turning away from God when tested. (Whether it is truly a test or just something God has allowed, for whatever reason. Maybe those two are the same thing, anyway.)

post #139 of 293

well, I think with my sister it is going to be a very long process of healing. Maybe just seeing those little feet will get her to start to see her own pain and that healing is possible. I always think rudeness and anger like that comes from hurt.

 

Yesterday I was treated to a mass where the whole congregation clapped along to the Gloria. jaw.gif It's no wonder there were so many people talking and kids running around unattended. I suppose even on vacation we would be better off investigating a bit to find a traditional parish. Maybe then we wouldn't be treated to flipflops and bathing suits with coverups at mass. So delightful to be treated to the full array of barely-covered cleavage and nether regions.

post #140 of 293

flip flops and bathing suits with coverups at mass? Woah. Vacation resort area or not I can't believe people would think that is ok. 

 

 

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