This "split" is so much on my mind and heart right now, ladies. Please bear with me a moment while I explain.
DD has been going afternoons to a lovely preschool just a few blocks from our house. It's very AP, "hippie," to the point where they say a vague sort of "blessing" before snack and there are mothers nursing their 3 year-olds on the playground. A lot of the families make different moral choices than I would support. But DD is so loved and accepted, the teachers are wonderful, and I've met some of the most friendly and truly caring people there. She's been going 2 years, though, and will be a VERY old 4 years old in the fall (her birthday is just a few weeks after the state cutoff for kindergarten) and I'm wondering about trying something new.
We visited the parish school yesterday, and due to a number of things going on in the school district, are considering that for the K-whatever education of our children. However, the preschool environment seemed very structured, very little free play, and very, for lack of a better word, regimented, right along with "uniforms" for the littlest kids. Getting shoes on DD is a struggle, even in the depth of winter, so I cannot image a uniform! But there are crucifixes everywhere, and age-appropriate religious instruction, and the kids (even the littles) are part of the community of faith.
So what do I pick? The barefoot, loving "hippies" or the structured Catholics? And maybe it's not so hard, because she'll be nearly 5 and it's probably OK for her to wear shoes and have a bit less chaos in her life, but I never thought I'd consider sending my kids to CATHOLIC SCHOOL! (I'm a convert.) I'm really wishing there was a middle ground, not just for preschool, of course, but for me to feel like there are families I can socialize with and support ...
I guess that's what this thread is all about. I read this thread all the time and pray for each of you, but every time I post I sound like I'm whining so I usually just erase what I've written.
I know my struggles are small, and I feel petty to even complain, but I want what's best for my kids and don't know how to do it.