Good morning ladies!!! Thanks for the new Thread!!!
I just need to vent this morning...and I'm sure it's going to sound petty but I need a sounding board and you poor ladies are always wonderful with listening! LOL
Ok, so me, DH, & our DDs were all planning on going to Disney World this summer with my parents and my twin brother, his wife and their 3 kids. Well, we were all supposed to rent a condo together and stay a few miles away from the parks so that it would be cheaper on everyone else since we are trying to buy this new house and my brother and sister in law just financed a 2004 Mercury SUV. Well, last night my mom TEXTS me DOESN"T EVEN CALL to tell me that she and my sister in law have talked about it and they want to stay inside the park now!!! WTH!!! Then she says that she didn't think that me and my DH were planning on going since we were buying the house and that they were going to take my oldest DD with them. When I told her I had our trip budgeted (not sure if that's the correct spelling lol) she said ok. Text me and told me that it would be about $900 plus gas and food which i can budget food VERY well!! Then about 20 minutes later she texts me again and this is what she wrote word for word::::"ok, i miss calculated before with food and gas it will be about $2500 for you tony and jayde. The package is $1554 and the other is for gas and food". Then when i told her that there's no way that I can go for that amount she sent me this "Its not that I don't want you to go but we don't want this trip to put you guys in a bind we can take jayde with us and when we take emma in a few years then you guys can go and this will give you some time to save up and you will have or will just be moving into your new home and that will take a little money for curtains, rugs and stuff like that" Then has my DADDY call me and try to make me feel bad for telling then that I won't let jayde go with them because me and her daddy are divorced and so we have to split the summers which means i'll be missing out on one of the two weeks that i have with her in june and That just ticks me off. I don't want to have to go a day without seeing her but i know that i have to be fare to her dad because he is good to her. Her comment about it costing money to move into a new house just blew me away...like i don't know that we are going to have to put out some money for our new house!!! But really, my house will have all carpet in the living room and bedrooms so why the HECK would I need a rug, I have curtains now in my house that i'm living in and those are curtains that WE bought so I'm taking them with me. It's not like i'm starting out in a new house with absolutely NOTHING, I am living in a house at this time that everything other than the fridge will be coming with me. Then for my mom to get mad at me because I want to see my daughter during the time that she's supposed to be with me and not want her to go to another state 600 miles away from me for a full week when she already has separation anxiety issues as it is? I just couldn't believe that they went behind my back to make these plans without even talking to me first and then to not even have the BALLS to call me to talk to me about? She had to TEXT me? That's just crazy.
What makes matters worse is that this Friday is mine and my twin brother's birthday and so Saturday night my family is having a get together for us at my grandparents house...and me and my mom STILL aren't talking to each other on good terms. Then I'm going to have to deal with my family critising me over my choice to have a house built. I'm so ready to say screw it because i obviously can't do anything that makes my parents happy!!!
OH, And another thing, i finally applied for my FAFSA so I could go back to school this summer or this fall and when I told my mom that I want to go to the Paul Mitchell Beauty School here in Huntsville she was like "Why would you wanna do a thing like that? They don't make any money doing that!!" REALLY? My mom is going to tell me that that's a "low standard" job more or less and that I would be NOTHING if i did that job. WOW i'm not in it for the money, i want to go to school to learn how to do hair, make up and about fashion because I WANT to learn it. BLAH
This was the weekend from HECK and I just have a feeling that next weekend won't be any better!! Which bites because that's my birthday weekend and I don't want to remember my 27th birthday as the one where everyone stopped talking to me forever!!!
Sorry for such a long post and for going off...i am just tired and frustrated. I can't do anything right in my families' eyes yet my twin brother and his wife LOSE their house 2 years ago to forclosure, get their van reposessed, and yet they supported them when they traded in a car that was PAID FOR for on that they are having to make payments on again!!!! I just really don't understand how my family works or thinks...but they've been that way mine and my brother's entire life. They could of cared less if i made c's or d's on my report cards i never got grounded for them...but my brother would make a c and they'd go crazy and tell him that he could do better. I never ONCE got that speech from them. I might of tried harder my Freshman and Sophomore years in school had they pushed me a little more...but it wasn't until i was a Junior that I actually started working hard to make a's and b's and from then on out i never made below a B in any class!!! And it wasn't because my parents pushed me but my boyfriend at the time (my x-dh) who was pushing me so hard. I just keep seeing more and more stuff as I look back that shows that things have always been different for me and my brother...and they've always treated him SO much better than they treat me. I know it's a pitty party right now, and it's petty, and I'm 27 almost and I should just get over it but they are my FAMILY! I was always brought up to love and honor your family especially respect your elders but right now I feel like I could just tell them all off and never talk to them again and I would be ok. I use to call my mom every day and she would talk to me and now if I call her to talk about the new house she has to get off the phone as soon as we start talking about it or she changes the subject really fast.
They think that me and DH are just STUPID and IRRESPONSIBLE!!!
anyways, thanks again for letting me be a sounding board!!! Hope everyone has a better day than my weekend was!!!!