I've had conversations with people about circ, and "peeled back the layers" to find that even when the health excuses, look like daddy, etc reasons are debunked, the real core of it is they are scared to death of "caring" for it.
-I was selling something on craigslist and the woman who picked it up was pregnant with her first, a girl. dd was about a year. She said she was so glad it was a girl because her sister had a boy and was circed with.. plastibell I think? and it was so creepy waiting for the ring to fall off. I of course mention that its completely unnecessary to circ and if I had a boy (and now I do! :D) I definitely wouldn't do it. She responded, "but then you have to clean it out...".. really freaked out by the concept. I told her that wasn't true and I hope I planted a seed!
-My brother's... child's mother (not his partner) was "really stressed out" about the concept of "Dealing with" an intact son. My brother consented as a compromise to leave him vax free.
-I was talking with a different brother and apparently as part of his "research" about circ (he has 3 cut boys :() he asked the parents he knew who had an intact son for their advice. "They still have to help their 8 YEAR OLD clean it!" My head pretty much exploded. I almost asked if he still helped his 6yo dd douche, or if she could manage it herself by now @@ Instead I demonstrated proper cleaning technique by grabbing a napkin and wiping my finger.
I know there have been other conversations. I probably blocked them from memory. Anyway, I really think that underneath any other excuses to circ, a lot of people, even faced with the truth that its not medically necessary, are freaked by the concept of "intact care" and would rather just cut it off. Not all people, course, I know there are people who cling to it for other reasons with a death grip, but SOME. Probably moms in particular.
Problem is, theres website after website title of "care of the intact penis" thread titles on this very forum about "intact care" and I can't help but wonder how many people might see those two words together and think "ugh, ew, I definitely do not want to even READ about cleaning out a foreskin!" From the point of view of someone who hasn't received any other good circ vs intact info (and probably plenty of misinformation) its not a far leap to assume that "care of the intact penis" at the top of an article on a website isn't going to be pleasant information to read.. and they might quit reading at the headline. Before they learn that there is NONE, aside from potentially slapping away meddling hands at WBVs!
So I'm wondering.. what can we do to make the "care" of an intact penis mainstream? Without putting that in the title! I'd love to create a pamphlet that is straight, uneditorialized FACT about circumcision, intact care, and normal development/what to expect. Something that on the surface, doesn't look anti circ, but simply letting the facts speak for themselves. Any thoughts? I've thought of writing it myself but would love some help!