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Starting first round of fertility treatments. Excited and scared.

post #1 of 19
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In 2007 I was diagnosed with 12 blood clots in my left leg. It was a result of birth control I had just started. I was on blood thinners for a year and a half. Since that time I have not had a regular cycle. At first I would go several months with nothing, have it for a couple of months, then nothing again the next month. I was not overly concerned with it at first. I just assumed my body would heal and return to it's normal cycle. It hasn't. For the past 3 years my husband and I have had unprotected sex. Never got pregnant. About a year and a half ago we began using ovulation calendars and ovulation kits in an attempt to get pregnant. I was hoping that for the past years we had just always missed my ovulation time. I was wrong. I went to my GYNO last month to ask for advice. My husband had a sperm analysis done. He is completely fine. It's all me. My doctor has put me on provestor for 5 days. I began my period five days after the last pill. I am supposed to take clomid on days 3-7. Today is just day 1, so I will take my first pill on Tuesday. I am really hoping it will work, but I'm scared of what will happen if it doesn't. My husband is worried of how I will react if we do finally get pregnant and then I miscarry. I don't know what that would be like. I figure we should just handle one obstacle at a time. My GYNO says that if I loose some weight it might help me get pregnant, yet my normal family doctor says that it has no bearing on it. I have tried on and off for years to loose some weight, but I haven't been very disciplined in it. I'm now wondering if that is partially why I can't get pregnant. Has anyone else been through a similar situation? Any advice? It's so hard to go through this when I see so many friends and coworkers who are having children, some by accident!!!!!! Sometimes life just sucks. 

post #2 of 19

HI cp1538, I'm so sorry that you're going through this! It sounds like such an ordeal. I was on birth control for 7 years and although they say it has no bearing on my fertility, my cycles before birth control were normal. Now, they are no longer normal so I too had to go on clomid (i'm on my 2nd cycle right now and in my 2WW after my IUI). And, although it's probably not logical, I do blame the birth control pills!


And you and your husband feel the exact same way my husband and I do. If we do get pregnant, what happens if we miscarry?! I think it's a natural way to feel. My sister in law is newly pregnant and she's also freaking out about it.


I did hear that losing weight may help you get pregnant, to be honest. I think that you should try that because it does seem to be a general consensus that some women do become more fertile when they lose weight. Yes, plenty of overweight women do get pregnant but I guess I just think that anything we can do that may help should be done. I take a handful of vitamins to try to make sure that my levels are normalized. haha I don't even know what I'm taking anymore! On that note, I'm off to the gym. I hear exercise also helps increase fertility and thicken the endometrial lining (which thinned out because of my two cycles of clomid) so I'm trying that route. I detest exercise though!!


Good luck and please let me know how you do!!!


post #3 of 19

Hi Cp1538!!


This is my first time ever posting and first time in actual fertility treatment. I am 25 and my husband is 30. We got pregnant with our son very young, I was 15!!! That was a piece of cake but now that we want to actually make our family grow IT'S SO HARD!!! greensad.gif For the last 9 years we NEVER used any birth control and I never got pregnant. I too tried loosing weight and at one point i lost about 70 pounds but still had no baby! So finally we decided to go to a specialist and see what happens. I started 100mg of Clomid and had the HCG trigger shot. I had my first IUI yesterday 2/19/2011 and today was my second. So I am officially on my 2 week waiting period!!!! thumb.gif  I am sooooooo scared of this not working because not only will I be very disappointed but we are also in the process of buying a house so Im not too sure we can afford another try right away. But I guess we'll see what happens but in the mean time Im trying to stay positive!


When I first made the appointment with the specialist I was scared that he might tell me to loose weight before starting anything but he didn't. He did tell me that I should try out a program like weight watchers just so that I could have a healthy life style but he never said I wasn't able to get pregnant because of my weight. I think that yes it might help to loose weight but even when I did it still didn't work! I hope that things turn out good but remember to stay positive because if all we worry about is the negative that could happen then we might even be attracting it our way... Stay positive and good luck on your journey! wink1.gif

post #4 of 19
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Thank you both for your notes. It really is nice to know others who are going through the same thing. Today is my first day on clomid. I'm waiting to see if I have any side effects. I have been struggling with the idea of my weight loss. I began to try weight watchers once, but it only lasted about a week. It's so hard to do it alone. There is a gym at my work that I could use for free. It's a really nice gym, but I've only managed to go a handful of times. I know it's just an excuse, but after work I'm tired and I just want to go home to my husband, not go to the gym. I just need to suck it up and go. Even if losing some weight doesn't increase my fertility, which I don't think it will. I do know it would help lower my risk during the pregnancy if I ever get pregnant. I wish there was someone in my area that I could work with! The buddy system worked great for me in high school and college!!!!! I was a healthy size and very active those few years ago, but since my blood clots I have become far less active. In the summer I go on bike rides with my husband and dog, but its never been anything that made me loose weight. I am trying not to get my hopes up too high for getting pregnant this cycle. From what I've heard there aren't many women that get pregnant the first time around with clomid. My doctor has given me 5 50mg pills to take on days 3-7. I see ppl like my sister, who is severly over weight, and even my neighbor who is too, and they both have 3 kids each. No problems getting pregnant. Then I see 3 ladies in my church. They are all skinny. Not a one of them has been able to get pregnant in the last several years. I know that it is all a mental thing really when it comes to loosing weight. I have told myself that I will do anything needed if it means I will get pregnant. Yet here I sit, not doing everything- kind of like what one of you said. I should be willing to do whatever I can to get pregnant and have a healthy pregnancy. I'm going to try and start going to the gym this week. We shall see how it goes. Thanks for your impute ladies. Have either of you had many side effects from the pills? Can you tell when you ovulate? I feel like my mind is playing games with me. For the longest time I thought I could tell when I was ovulating by mucas and stuff only to learn that I haven't been ovulating at all!!!!! Now I don't know how to tell if I am or not.... I have an ovulation kit I will be using starting on day 10. What if I don't ovulate when the doctor says I should. Could I ovulate late and have it go unnoticed?

post #5 of 19

Good luck with the Clomid!

I was on it for two cycles.  I did not have any side effects, but I took it at night so I would hopefully sleep through any side effects.  I O'ed about 6-8 days after I stopped the Clomid, so between CD13-15.  Here's a link to my FF chart, where you can see both of my Clomid charts, if you are curious.  www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2e5d89


Is you doctor going to be doing bloodwork to make sure you are O'ing on the Clomid dosage?  My doctor did CD21 bloodwork with my first round of Clomid to make sure I did O and to see if my dosage needed to be changed. 


Good luck to you! 

post #6 of 19
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Thanks for the input! Yes my doctor is having me come in for blood work on Day 21. It will be Saturday, March 12th for me. She said that if I did show ovulation, then she would have me come back for another blood test on the 23rd day of my cycle to see if I am pregnant. I'm just afraid that the medicine won't work. That it won't make me ovulate... I have tended to still be bleeding when I should be ovulating in past cycles. My last bleeding lasted over 2 weeks. This is my first cycle with the medicine that was supposed to regulate me. I took it before the clomid. It has made me bleed a lot heavier, but I don't know yet if it will make it a shorter bleed time. Still waiting to see :/

post #7 of 19

I just wanted to say Hello and GL.  I hope that your stay on this thread is short!  As you will see, I think that all of us struggle with the fear of miscarriage.  Unfortunately when you struggle with getting pregnant, I think that is a fear that just doesn't go away.  I kept it through my entire pregnancy, and now of course I fear other things.  Just don't let it get the best of you and you will make it through!

post #8 of 19
What happened with me was that I started clomid and didn't ovulate at all. So the dr said if I didn't ovulate by day 17 then I needed to go into the office for an ultrasound. I went in and even though clomid didn't make me ovulate it did help because I had one mature follicle on my left ovary. So the dr gave me a HCG shot to take on day 19 if my kit still showed no ovulation. I took the shot and about three hours later my kit showed a positive for ovulation! The next day I went in for the IUI! So I think that if you don't ovulate your doctor will probably give you that shot to trigger your ovulation. Stay calm I know it's hard but it's a process. Good luck!
post #9 of 19
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So today is day 19 of my cycle. I took ovulation tests last week, and it showed positive on days 11-13 of my cycle. Today I have had a dark reddish brown discharge. It has been coming on and off all day. I don't understand what it is. Why would I be spotting when I haven't even gotten to day 21, when I go for the blood test to see if I ovulated. Has this ever happened to anyone else? I'm worried I'm going to start my period super early or something. 

post #10 of 19

Maybe it's implantation bleeding?! I'm hopeful for you!!

post #11 of 19
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So I had spotting for two days and then it stopped. I don't know if it was implantation bleeding or not.... It was kinda more than I thought that spotting would have been..... I don't know! My next cycle is supposed to start this Sunday.... If I don't start, then I will take a test and see. I'm really trying not to get my hopes up b/c it is so depressing when it comes back negative. 

post #12 of 19
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Ugh! I'm frustrated. My doctor gave me just clomid this time instead of clomid and provera. I am on day 36 of my cycle, and I haven't started my next period yet! I have been spotting on and off for the past three days, but nothing major. I'm afraid of not starting my period this month.  I just wish I was pregnant and didn't have to worry and stress about my stupid irregular period!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

post #13 of 19

Thanks to all who've posted here. I am new to this thread as of today. I am 39 and my DH will be 40 this year. We have been trying for a year to have children with no luck. I have endo and had a second lap last May after my first mc. Dr. was hopeful and send us home to practice. I became pregnant again in January and on Valentine's day we saw the heartbeat with was really low. The day before my birthday there was no longer a heartbeat and they scheduled my D&C a week later. When I found out I was pregnant the second time around my progestrone levels were low and I was put on prometrium to help. As a result I lost the baby at 9 weeks. When we went back yesterday for my post opt  My fert. dr advised us to try Clomid and IUI as he believes that I don't have trouble getting pregnant but it may be the levels that are causing me to no carry to term. I have been so depressed lately and feel so lonely. I know there are others who are experiencing the same thing that I am and that is one reason I came to this thread. I need to support and faith....faith that I will one day carry a baby to term. After going through this I am just scared and want so much to believe that my time is not up yet. Any advice would be great on how to approach this whole IUI thingy would be great. It seems so complicated. I knew before the time around that I ovulated as I used predictor kits but taking pills and trigger shots all seem so scary and just wondering how you all do it? Do you make a calendar to keep track? I did before to help me remember when I ovulated and such. Looking forward to getting to know you all. Best wishes, 

post #14 of 19
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Oh Lollipop09, my heart was aching for you when I read what you've gone through. It really can be so depressing at times, but I have found that even in merely talking with everyone on here, that I feel less alone than I did. If you're like me, I don't have any friends or family that have struggled with this in the past. No one truly understands, until now, until here. I hope you can find some companionship and support with us all here! Now, on to the second thing-keeping track of everything. I don't know about everyone else, but I have an app on my phone that I have been using for the past 2 years. I can input all of my info into it . I can tell what happened on what days from merely looking at the monthly calendar. I have pics that symbolize each thing. A heart means we ....., a lightening bolt means I'm spotting, a big yellow dot means ovulating, and a red line means I'm bleeding (just examples). I can then open up into each day and look at any notes or details about stuff from that day. I have found that it helped to keep me more vigilant and organized!

post #15 of 19

Yes, most of my friends didn't have fertility issues so it is hard. I am going to try and keep a little calendar of all the things you mentioned along with all of the dosages I will be taking I think it will help keep me sane. At least that is something I can control right now.

post #16 of 19

Hi Lollipop, I'm so sorry about what you're going through. :o( Infertility is such a difficult situation to deal with. My DH and I have been trying for a year (I'm 34, going on 35) and initially, I had these really long cycles so my RE didn't believe I was ovulating. After 9 months of trying naturally, she finally put me on Clomid with an hcg trigger and an IUI. I'm on my third round and generally, I've found it to be a relatively easy to take regimen; i suffered from little to no side effects with the clomid. With clomid, I tended to have 3 mature follicles by the time we triggered (my RE follows me through ultrasound). The day after, we do an IUI and we BD that night. It was a little difficult to schedule due to work but I was lucky that I was able to do the IUI on Saturdays, which really helped.


The one caution about clomid...it really did thin my endometrial lining, which is probably why I've been having trouble conceiving (I'm about 2 days away from finding out whether this last cycle was successful or not but because of my thin lining, I'm not very optimistic (I'm testing via a blood test on day 12 dpo). After each IUI, I take prometrium because my RE wants to be sure that my lining, thin as it is, at least has the healthiest chance for implantation. I take it vaginally though because I tried taking it orally the first month and it turned me into a raving lunatic! Vaginally is so much better-you may want to ask your doctor if that is possible. I really hope that your RE is going to give you that chance too. Additionally, if you're finding you get thin lining due to clomid, ask your RE about the possibility of using estrogen to counteract the clomid. I kept asking my RE but she kept refusing. If I don't get pregnant this month, she finally said that she'll put me on estrogen with the clomid...it's too late though-I now want a different RE because I feel like my current RE doesn't really address my issues well.


Please keep your spirits up!! You've gotten pregnant before so it's definitely not too late. You may just need some help and it look like your RE is trying to do what he/she can. Clomid additionally, should help with increasing your progesterone as it apparently lengthens the luteal phase...before I started clomid, my luteal phases ranged from 9-13 days. Now, they last for about 14-16 days. Hopefully, clomid with an extra boost of progesterone will help you keep your baby!! GOOD LUCK and please let us know how it goes.

post #17 of 19
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I am soooo frustrated right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So last month the doctor have me provera with the clomid to initiate my cycle since I have weird periods. She didn't give it to me this month. Now I've been spotting on and off since the 21st. No real menstration has started. I've been talking to my doctor about it for over a week now! She said it is to late to start the provera, but she doesn't want me to take the clomid since I'm not having a regular cycle. I'm so upset. I feel like I have wasted a month. I don't understand why she wouldn't give me both like last time. Now I fee like I have to wait another whole month to try again. I don't like my doctor that much, and this has made me like her less. She is not very friendly! And now I feel like she is almost holding us back. I don't know. I'm just so tired of all of this. Why can't my body just do what it is supposed too.... I want a baby so bad.

post #18 of 19

Oh CP, I'm so sorry that you're experiencing such issues with your RE. It's amazing that these physicians, who are working with us at such a crucial and stressful time, are so bad about explaining why they are doing what they are doing!!! I had the same issue as you with my RE so I am changing REs. Is that an option for you? I know, it sucks that you wasted a month but just think about the potential for next month. However, if possible, try to see another RE asap so that you can get someone better suited for your situation.


Good luck!!

post #19 of 19
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My hubby was saying the same thing on both counts too. He said I shouldn't let her bother me, that there are so many other doctors I could go to if I want. It's just stressful having to make that decision and try to find a new and better doctor. I know one month isn't a big deal in the whole sceme of things, but it still feels like it is. Waiting is a game I don't like playing :0  Oh well!!!!

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