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post #101 of 120
5/4/11 at 5:08pm
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I just got off the phone with midwife candidate #4. I feel like I'm interviewing suitors. Anyway, she sounds amazing. I'm going to meet her tonight to see if we hit it off. Unfortunately DH cant come tonight but I'm going anyway and if I like her then he can come to my visits and get to know her then. Cross your fingers for me. I feel like maybe if I feel like I can trust her and get to know her, maybe I"ll have the guts to tell my OB straight up. I'm sure I'll cry when I do but this might be our last baby and I want it to be what I want it to be!
I'm hopeful so if she turns out to not be what I needed then I'll be a little disappointed. ACK! dizzy.gif

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post #102 of 120
5/4/11 at 6:09pm

Good luck, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!
 

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Originally Posted by mamahen2coop View Post

I just got off the phone with midwife candidate #4. I feel like I'm interviewing suitors. Anyway, she sounds amazing. I'm going to meet her tonight to see if we hit it off. Unfortunately DH cant come tonight but I'm going anyway and if I like her then he can come to my visits and get to know her then. Cross your fingers for me. I feel like maybe if I feel like I can trust her and get to know her, maybe I"ll have the guts to tell my OB straight up. I'm sure I'll cry when I do but this might be our last baby and I want it to be what I want it to be!
I'm hopeful so if she turns out to not be what I needed then I'll be a little disappointed. ACK! dizzy.gif


 

post #103 of 120
5/4/11 at 11:20pm
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I think it might happen ...
post #104 of 120
5/8/11 at 7:50am
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I really really like the Midwife I met with on Thursday. I'm feeling really good about it! I made an appointment to break up with my OB tomorrow morning. Look for a final, real conclusion tomorrow!
Watch I'll transfer to the midwife then end up being a transfer anyway! That'd be some luck.
Happy Mothers Day everyone
post #105 of 120
5/8/11 at 8:13am

Awesome! I'm very excited for you.

post #106 of 120
5/8/11 at 2:50pm

joy.gif  glad you finally found someone to work with

post #107 of 120
5/8/11 at 4:36pm

I'm thinkin' you're going to have an awesome home birth and can't wait to hear the story!

post #108 of 120
5/9/11 at 1:48pm
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SO... Last week I met with a wonderful, very experienced, and, I gather, well respected in the midwife world midwife that is about 30-35 minutes from my house. She seems very intuitive and knowledgeable and I felt very comfortable with her. After I met with her I knew that I really did want a homebirth and that she could be the person that I could trust to keep me and baby safe. I sat on it Friday though, just because I'm my mother's daughter and cant make a decision to save my life. Then she called me Saturday and said that she doesn't normally call clients back while they're deciding what to do but that she felt compelled to because she just really thought that I was in a place where I was looking for more out of my birthing experience than the hospital could give me and since DS was with me and having a melt down while I was interviewing her on Thursday, she thought we didn't get a chance to talk about it as much as she'd have liked. I appreciated that.
Fast forward a day to this morning and I'm a nervous nelly sitting in the waiting room at the OB's office. My blood pressure was 122, which is pretty high for me, and if they would have counted my pulse I'm sure it was at least 80! so my OB comes in, we chat like usual and have the requisite quicky fundal height and doppler heart tones then I just said why I came in 2 weeks early... how I'd just had this gut feeling I didn't want to deliver in the hospital and that I really trusted her and that made it hard for me to find someone else who delivers at home. She reacted just how I thought she would react because she is the good doctor I think she is. She said OK, yay for you, you dont need me anyway! She said if anyone should be having babies at home it's me and that as long as I found someone with adequate experience that everything would be just fine. She said she would still be my MD if I needed to transfer for any reason and it all went very, very well. joy.gif


SO... now I'm officially having a homebirth and can spend the hours I was spending agonizing over this decision on other things, like do I need a birthing tub or not and where do I get all the supplies I'll need. smile.gif
I'm pretty giddy right now so Im certain that I made the right decision. woo hoo!
Edited by mamahen2coop - 5/9/11 at 2:40pm
post #109 of 120
5/9/11 at 4:20pm

YAY!!! So happy for you!!!

post #110 of 120
5/9/11 at 5:29pm

Congrats, especially on having such a great and understanding OB.  Having to transfer without a good backup doc is one of the worst problems with the homebirth midwife system in America, so consider yourself very blessed!

 

 

post #111 of 120
5/9/11 at 6:18pm

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post #112 of 120
5/9/11 at 6:36pm

I'm so so happy for you! Hurray!!

post #113 of 120
5/9/11 at 7:23pm

VERY cool!

post #114 of 120
5/9/11 at 7:29pm

Cheers! YAY! biggrinbounce.gif

post #115 of 120
5/12/11 at 9:24am
How wonderful! Your doctor sounds amazing! So happy for you!
post #116 of 120
5/12/11 at 9:46am
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How wonderful! Your doctor sounds amazing! So happy for you!

She really is, I think that's a big reason why I had such a hard time deciding. I'm really a pretty private person so I think once you trust someone enough to be a part of something so intimate, it's hard to generate the same trust and comfort level with someone new. I have now had a clinic visit with the midwife and I think I will be very comfortable with her by the time delivery comes.
post #117 of 120
5/16/11 at 11:06am

I guess the next thing to figure out is if you're wanting a water birth.  If you have a good sized bathtub, you might be OK.  You can order your supplies on this site http://www.yourwaterbirth.com/. Your midwife might even have her kits built in to where you put in her name and order what she's already selected. The least expensive La Bassine works just fine for a birthing tub. Since you'd be using a liner, you can always resell the tub...people are always looking to buy them.

post #118 of 120
5/16/11 at 2:08pm
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I have a good sized jetted tub that I spent most of my labor with DS in. I know it might be a little crass, but I also have a brand new stock water trough just sitting around so I was thinking maybe if I didn't want to deliver in the tub for some reason, I could labor in the bathtub then get in the trough with some towels or something? I'm going to ask the midwife what she knows and has available this week so I can start getting ready. Im not sure what I want but I think i want something there as an option if I do want.
post #119 of 120
5/17/11 at 10:05am
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I have a good sized jetted tub that I spent most of my labor with DS in. I know it might be a little crass, but I also have a brand new stock water trough just sitting around so I was thinking maybe if I didn't want to deliver in the tub for some reason, I could labor in the bathtub then get in the trough with some towels or something? I'm going to ask the midwife what she knows and has available this week so I can start getting ready. Im not sure what I want but I think i want something there as an option if I do want.


smile.gif Not crass at all. In fact I know one gal who bought a water trough just to use as a birthing tub. Be sure to line the bottom really well, that was her only complaint.

 

post #120 of 120
5/17/11 at 12:55pm

This is one of my favorite waterbirth videos...the birth of Theo! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JDexz5ObYzQ&feature=player_embedded&has_verified=1

 

This is a great one too...a home waterbirth http://docs.google.com/leaf?id=0B-HMaSsr3sb2ZGViNDQ5MDktNzQ1ZS00MzJjLWIwYmEtMTcyYzEzYWI2OTk0&hl=en&pli=1

 

 

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