Rain and I were talking about this yesterday, and I was wondering how others' experiences compared to ours.
When she was younger, I think unschooling was kind of a big "thing". We didn't know many unschoolers - well, there really weren't many unschoolers, even online, and they were definitely few and far between in real life. Also, school was a big thing for most little kids, so a lot more people asked Rain about school and then at least homeschooling would come up, and often unschooling... so it just seemed to always be there in front of us.
For the last five years or so, other than moderating here , it's just not that visible. Rain has three good friends here who are homeschooled (or were, I guess, since they're all a year or so older than she is) but I really have no idea how structured their schooling was. It didn't seem to matter... Rain does stuff like baking or theatre or playing rugby or going to shows with them, not schoolwork. Most of her friends aren't/weren't homeschooled or unschooled, and that doesn't matter to them or to her.
So, we were talking about being an unschooler, and she basically said well, yeah, I am, but it's not really that important most of the time. It would be like saying "I'm a rugby player" or "I speak Russian" out of the blue - yeah, those things are true, but they don't define her.
When she was younger, like 11 or 12, she really wanted to go to NBTSC, because all the teens she knew went and loved it... and then by the time she got to be a teen she didn't really see the allure. She doesn't blog about unschooling, like a lot of unschooled teens seem to. When she was applying to colleges she chose not to talk about it at all in her essays (although I snuck some references into the school description bits, although without using the word unschooling).
I'm thinking it might be different for kids who start unschooling later, too...Rain unschooled after kindie, and she really has only fuzzy memories of school, and the schools she was in were pretty non-traditional anyway.
So, how is it for you? I know it's a different world now than ten years ago, so I'm curious about those of you with kids who are little now - is unschooling a big part of their identity? And for those of you with older kids, how do they think about it? And has it changed?