Hi. I either need reassurance or a reality check so I can mentally get through the rest of this pregnancy/life.
This pregnancy was very very much wanted. However, that doesn't really seem to be helping me mentally through the difficulties of it. I am 30 weeks and last night I think I finally cracked. I have been off work, on bedrest since 18 weeks. We don't know anyone here and family is limited so the isolation (with my toddler) has been beyond awful. This pregnancy has been so much more difficult than my singleton b/c since the beginning (well except week 15/16 which were "easy"), I have only been able to get through that day. The nausea, vomiting, dizziness, dehydration, anemia, unable to eat, insomnia, pains.....I can never look past the next few hours.
I have some chronic conditions which we expected to get worse during the pregnancy but until you are there.......there really is no preparing. I have herniated discs and nerve damage that cause a lot of pain in my abdomen. I am short with a tiny torso and literally one baby barely fit in me so two are tearing me apart. I have turned to actual pharmacueticals to try and alleviate some of this nightmare. Ambien does nothing for my insomnia b/c my pain is so bad. I have tried many a pain killers including vicodin and tramadol--nothing touches the pain. The skin on the right side of my stomach feels like it has a hot curling iron being held to it and I can't even tolerate fabric touching it. My dr thinks maybe I am getting shingles but maybe it just the nerve damage from my back.
then there is the concept of having 2 more babies at home. honestly I am pretty much to the point of being a handicapped person right now. although i was once an active, happy positive person, right at this moment I can't imagine going from laying down for 4 months in pain to BAM, having 2 newborns that require constant care. I will admit, I am not really looking forward to much of any of this right now.
I literally don't know how I am going to go 2 more months. I know I probably have things giong on that many of you don't have but I guess this is what I am asking:
1. do the ailments that you experience during a twin pregnancy really go away when you deliver? how long does it take?
2. will I feel semi-normal again?
3. after bedrest were you physically able to care for 2 newborns (and other kids in the house and yourself......)?
4. any tips to get through the rest of my pregnancy?
5. any tips to get through the postpartum periods with zero muscle tone from bedrest?