Originally Posted by skyewriter
Just asking... why do you want them to sleep alone? Pls don't be annoyed at me, or say to get stuff done!... I need to get stuff done too... just asking as they are only little nursing napping bundles for so long. I treasure the years I spent cuddling up my sleeping nurslings! I mean treasure every minute of it... I can't even remember any of the 'yay I cleaned, acheived, did stuff' days... I know I had them, but its the naps and all the hours in bed or chairs or rockers I treasure now.... We seem to be given A+ in this country for every act of putting our child down to sleep alone, to nap 'independently', to stay with strangers.... its everywhere, are you sure you want to put your LO down? How about a nap together, a big easy chair a nice drink/snack a book and a nursing sleeping babe, or a call to a friend with your feet up and your babe asleep on your breast?Sometimes going with the flow is more fun for everyone.... just my two cents
Just to give you some perspective on why it can be necessary to get a baby to sleep independantly in order to get stuff done, which you so disdainfully described, I'd like to explain to you that not everyone has the time to simply spend their day in a big easy chair with a napping babe chatting with friends. While I love my little bundle and he's so adorable when he sleeps, the only way I can afford my little sleeping boy wonder is to be a WAHM. In order to be the best mom I can be to him while he's AWAKE, I need to get my work done during his naps. Furthermore, the division of labor that allows for a mama to stay at home and nurse and lay in her easy chair often requires her partner to be at work all day supporting her. I know my husband would be pretty pissed to work a 10 hour day and come home to wash a sinkful of dishes, make his own dinner, and then clean up because I spent all day in an easy chair. Not every woman strives to be only a mama 24/7. Sometimes we need a break and a nap or two is not two much to ask. Perhaps it's my own working mother's guilt, but this post really rubbed me as insensitive.
OP, it is really important to get past the feeling that DH is never doing it just right. Babies are adaptable and they seem to recognize that they get different things from different caregivers, which is fantastic. For example, I am home all day with Daniel and my husband WOH. When he comes home, he is in charge of bathtime and bedtime. I put Daniel down for two naps a day and I have a very specific routine that I follow. My husband, on the other hand, has another very specific routine that HE follows. You know what? The baby still goes to sleep. Take some time away from the time you actually need him to put your LO to sleep and show him your needs and how you do things, and then once you've shown him, step out of the way. I think as mamas we forget that we didn't learn how to care for babies intuitively, we learned by DOING, and we need to allow our partners the same experience. Unless you're afraid your husband will employ a method that you absolutely don't agree with (allowing the baby to CIO, being way too rough, etc.), you might even want to step out of earshot while he's working his magic. The temptation to go in and just do it yourself might be too strong, and then you're not accomplishing anything.
Swaddling. Is. Awesome. Buy a SwaddleMe and wrap your LO snug as a bug in a rug and watch the magic unfold. You might also try some white noise. These days we're really liking the sound of the humidifier.