Just asking... why do you want them to sleep alone? Pls don't be annoyed at me, or say to get stuff done!... I need to get stuff done too... just asking as they are only little nursing napping bundles for so long. <cut>Sometimes going with the flow is more fun for everyone.... just my two cents
While I understand where this advice is coming from, and wish we all had housekeepers or other help to make it happen, this was honestly some of the worst advice I received when DS was born. Not the worst because it's bad, but the worst because it made me feel TERRIBLE. Like there was something wrong with me that I couldn't just sit back and enjoy being with my new son 24/7. I was constantly told 'enjoy it, the dishes/laundry/housework/etc will still be there'. Well, yeah, that's the problem. They WILL still be there and there will be so much more in a week or 2 or 3 (assuming I have enough clothes/dishes/whatever to last that long) and instead of taking an hour or 2 to get the house in order, it will take all day. And we all know that as difficult as it can be to get an hour free, it is impossible to get the whole day free. To me a very messy house is stressful, and yes, I have relaxed my standards (as hard as that was). If I reach for a towel and there aren't any clean, and I want to put a dish in the sink but it's overflowing already, I start to get frustrated and my patience goes down with everyone. How is that good for my son?
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Also, while I didn't have PPD, I discovered I didn't actually like being the mom of an infant. So that time when DP would take him was just as precious as the moments I watched his adorable face sleeping in my arms. I agree with PPs, let him figure out his own routines etc. It won't be the way you do things, but (unless he's harming the baby somehow) it will be fine. When there are things that need to be addressed, address them in a light hearted way. When DP wasn't washing behind baby ears at bathtime, one day I said in my little 'talking to baby' voice "oh no! your ears are still dirty! you need to tell daddy to wash behind them!" Stuff like that.
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Last - I just started reading The No Cry Sleep Solution. DS is 7 months. I wish I'd read it when he was 3 or 4 months.
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Hang in there mama, it's rough but it does get better.
,  but kinda like  Asraideven said, maybe your fighting the wrong battle? sometimes there are ways to do stuff together, wearing the babe or even while they sit in a chair or swing to watch and gnaw a toy, or whatever. I am a serious do everything in one giant huuuge long project type worker, and having my babies forced me to learn to do things in smaller runs, bit by bit.... a hard shift to make! But we developed a rythym together this way, I can do a lot with one hand, (bread was tough), he will sit happily in a chair long enough  to do some kitchen stuff, and now I feel like we work together through the day... anyway I wonder if society actually valued mothering... would any of us feel we weren't doing enough during the short (in the bigger scheme of things) but mom intensive period of infanthood? of course the question is silly, cuz if motherhood were honored and valued... we'd probably have help like in some indigenous societies!! Anyway I only meant to say that preconceived ways of doing things don't always fit what makes us happy... not if we make ourselves nuts getting there. I hope the swaddling works for you... if not or even in  addition to, you can try and find those together ways of filling in some of the chores a few minutes here and there. 
