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post #101 of 190
My specific child no. But that's because footie jammies don't fit her right and the legs are too long and are a tripping hazard. And we wear wool over our night time diaper that most often needs to be aired out in the morning. That being said we have changed from jammies into jammies and I have no issue taking dd out in whatever she wants to wear provided it's not stinky or a tripping hazard!
post #102 of 190
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Originally Posted by mrspineau View Post

So then really, why even have pj's?  if its all the same and pj's are clothes too then why not just sleep in your clothes that you wore all day?  pj's are clothes, yes, for sleeping in. just like a swimsuit is for swimming, a raincoat is for outside in the rain.....


Well we do lots of different things at our house. I sleep naked (can't stand to have clothing on when I sleep) and use my pajamas like regular clothing; they get worn when I feel like being extra cozy, sometimes inside, sometimes out. My children usually sleep in the clothes they are wearing. The pajamas they wear just when they feel like it, which usually ends up being after a bath if it happens to be close to bedtime. I notice they more often want to wear them when the weather is very cold, which happens often during our long ND winters. They will usually just wear them all day. I also use them as a second layer when we go out in the cold to play, especially the fleece ones. Although my older son (11yo) just wears pajama bottoms in the mix with his other clothing, indiscriminately. My husband changes into pajamas when he gets home from work, and takes them off before he goes to work.

 

When it comes down to it, pajamas are just pieces of cloth like any other clothing, to be worn in whatever way they are functional. If anyone finds it inappropriate, then that is their own personal hangup which has nothing to do with anyone else. It's the same as a Muslim woman finding going without arms, legs, and head covered inappropriate, my grandmother finding wearing white shoes after labor day offensive, or people being bothered by someone wearing a hat indoors. It has to do with their upbringing or what they feel pressured by society to do, and has nothing to do with right or wrong. It is really no one's business what other people choose to wear and if they want to be bothered by it, that is their cross to bear. Seems a waste of energy to go around disapproving of others, including our own children, because "That is just how it is. Indoor clothes are for inside, and outdoor clothes are for outside." I feel it is unnecessarily controlling.

post #103 of 190

Maybe I am misunderstanding but I don't think anyone said they were wearing their jammies as regular clothes and then coming home and sleeping in them. I think they were talking about a kid who is comfy and loving his jammies so the parents lets them keep them on when they run to store. The "ritual" of putting on clean clothes (what ever they may be) before still holds.

 

I think it is an exception that a person/child is wearing them to bed, wearing them all the next day and then wearing them to bed again that night.  My son was that exception at about 2 when he wore the same jammies for days in a row however they really did not get that dirty as we were not routinely exposed to dog poop, mud and rain and if that happened I would have washed them and let him put them back on.
 

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No, I would not.

 

I think georgia summed it up really well. The day has a rhythm: in the morning, we get dressed. (And that could be sweats/costume/track pants, whatever) and at night we put on our pj's and go to sleep.

 

But my eldest never wanted to wear anything unusual outside of the house and the youngest is only one, it's not a battle I've ever had to fight. That said, I live in France and I have never, ever seen a child outside in pj's.

 

Beyond all of that, I think it's kind of gross to wear something outside all day then sleep in it in my bed. Maybe I'm a closet germaphobe. Also, we walk almost everywhere, it rains a lot, things get muddy, get dog poop on them, etc. So to me there are very big differences between what we wear outside and what we wear to bed.

post #104 of 190
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Originally Posted by MusicianDad View Post

Not a battle I would fight. And really, if I had monkey footie pajamas, I wouldn't want to take them off either!

 

Well, MD, here you go! I completely expect you to buy these and post pics of yourself shopping at Target while wearing them! orngtongue.gif

 

As for the OP, of course I'd let my toddler wear footed pjs to the store! I see babies/toddlers out in pjs all the time. I never considered that people would think it was wrong or inappropriate. I never even considered the fact that the footed one-piece outfits were strictly pjs for babies and/or toddlers.
 

post #105 of 190

For the record, I don't really care what other kids wear anywhere. Not my business, not my problem. But for my kids, no, we don't go out of the house in pyjamas.

 

I think I require more structure than some people here. We also eat all meals at the table, sitting down together. There's no grazing. I have expectations of behavior in certain situations. One is being dressed when we leave the house. Whatevs, it's how we roll. The OP asked, and I'm giving her my answer. If it seems too strict for you, so be it. So far I've never had any power struggles over clothing with my children.

 

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Well, MD, here you go! I completely expect you to buy these and post pics of yourself shopping at Target while wearing them! orngtongue.gif

 

As for the OP, of course I'd let my toddler wear footed pjs to the store! I see babies/toddlers out in pjs all the time. I never considered that people would think it was wrong or inappropriate. I never even considered the fact that the footed one-piece outfits were strictly pjs for babies and/or toddlers.
 


OMG.....I must get a pair!

 

 

 

As for the clothing battle.....especially with 2 year old I have found it easier to allow them to wear what they want as long as it is not dirty, smelly, seasonally inappropriate. My now 5 year old DD used to wear this pair of plastic princess play dress up shoes everywhere the summer after she turned 2. At first, I attempted to get her to wear her sneakers/sandals etc, but I realized this phase wasn't going to last forever. One day she wore them to the plaza we go to get ice cream, and it was fun to see the reaction from a group of older folks hanging out there as well. They were smiling. It was a joy for them to see this little girl in her dress up shoes, skirt, purse being a two year old. We resolved the issue by leaving a pair of shoes in the car that we suitable for playing on the playground etc. Kids (and many adults) have their favorite items to wear - but esp. with kids, the item is a passing thing. Ride it out. Over time they will develop their own preferences for what clothing to wear when.

 

I'd rather save my parental authority for the big issues.

post #107 of 190
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Well, MD, here you go! I completely expect you to buy these and post pics of yourself shopping at Target while wearing them! orngtongue.gif

 

 


Those are awesome. Alas, DH has my permission to tell me I'm not allowed to shop on line and enforce the rule, we also don't have targets here (yet).

post #108 of 190

Not a battle I would bother fighting. They want to wear Pjs and its not going to hurt anyone they can wear pjs.

post #109 of 190

I split the difference.  Each child & family is different so the parent needs to decide where to place his/her energy.  I teach the child what is appropriate over time, and don't fight any particular battle.  Eventually they get the idea, some earlier, some later.  Some hot-blooded kids can't be kept in jackets & hats and wear baggy shorts to high school in midwinter.  Ever seen the lost & found box at school, full of hoodies, hats, long sleeved shirts and jackets?  This goes on K - 12.

 

I saw two toddlers traveling in footies on my flight at the airport last weekend.  My first thought was that it was unwise, knowing as I do the hazards of fire during aircraft crashes, but those footies were probably flameproof.   My 2nd was why not?  Happy comfortable kids are a blessing.  Unhappy uncomfortable kids make life difficult for everyone.  Do what works for your family. 

post #110 of 190
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I split the difference.  Each child & family is different so the parent needs to decide where to place his/her energy.  I teach the child what is appropriate over time, and don't fight any particular battle.  Eventually they get the idea, some earlier, some later.  Some hot-blooded kids can't be kept in jackets & hats and wear baggy shorts to high school in midwinter.  Ever seen the lost & found box at school, full of hoodies, hats, long sleeved shirts and jackets?  This goes on K - 12.

 

I saw two toddlers traveling in footies on my flight at the airport last weekend.  My first thought was that it was unwise, knowing as I do the hazards of fire during aircraft crashes, but those footies were probably flameproof.   My 2nd was why not?  Happy comfortable kids are a blessing.  Unhappy uncomfortable kids make life difficult for everyone.  Do what works for your family. 


My first thought is that's going to suck when they need to go potty! But I'm currently in the middle of potty training DS and a bit obsessed about elimination...
post #111 of 190


 

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Originally Posted by 7thDaughter View Post

I split the difference.  Each child & family is different so the parent needs to decide where to place his/her energy.  I teach the child what is appropriate over time, and don't fight any particular battle.  Eventually they get the idea, some earlier, some later.  Some hot-blooded kids can't be kept in jackets & hats and wear baggy shorts to high school in midwinter.  Ever seen the lost & found box at school, full of hoodies, hats, long sleeved shirts and jackets?  This goes on K - 12.

 

I saw two toddlers traveling in footies on my flight at the airport last weekend.  My first thought was that it was unwise, knowing as I do the hazards of fire during aircraft crashes, but those footies were probably flameproof.   My 2nd was why not?  Happy comfortable kids are a blessing.  Unhappy uncomfortable kids make life difficult for everyone.  Do what works for your family. 




My first thought is that's going to suck when they need to go potty! But I'm currently in the middle of potty training DS and a bit obsessed about elimination...


Haha! Me too, footies are the WORST for PT.  Now I'm imagining trying to wrestle a toddler out of their footies in a target bathroom while wearing the baby because you know they'd HAVE to go.  Maybe only 2 piece jammies for outings.

post #112 of 190
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Originally Posted by Marylizah View Post

No, I would not.

 

I think georgia summed it up really well. The day has a rhythm: in the morning, we get dressed. (And that could be sweats/costume/track pants, whatever) and at night we put on our pj's and go to sleep.

 

But my eldest never wanted to wear anything unusual outside of the house and the youngest is only one, it's not a battle I've ever had to fight. That said, I live in France and I have never, ever seen a child outside in pj's.

 

Beyond all of that, I think it's kind of gross to wear something outside all day then sleep in it in my bed. Maybe I'm a closet germaphobe. Also, we walk almost everywhere, it rains a lot, things get muddy, get dog poop on them, etc. So to me there are very big differences between what we wear outside and what we wear to bed.


I don't think anyone's talking about wearing pjs all day and then sleeping in them. I was talking about putting on clean pjs after bath, wearing them to bed, and then leaving them on for the first hour or two of the day, including an errand out of the house. After that, they do have to change, at a minimum before they go to bed the next night, into clean pjs. I don't think I'd let them sleep in clothes they wore around our yucky city either. 

 

But not only have I allowed pjs with shoes for needed errands (ie-early morning dog walk); I have also allowed soft day dress as pjs to make it easier to get to an early event the next day. DD put the dress on at night, wore it as pjs, at 6am I put her into the stroller while she was still asleep, and headed out to the early event. 

post #113 of 190

If my barely 2-year-old were playing outside, I'd change her into outdoor clothing, but the weather lately has not been conducive to outdoor play, so she's indoors much of the time.  And it's cold indoors to some extent too, and she's in a mood lately to remove all of her clothing, and the footie pjs are harder to get off.  I love keeping her in pjs.  I'm quite sure no one is talking about having their kid roll around in poop and then later go to bed.

post #114 of 190
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Originally Posted by Marylizah View Post

For the record, I don't really care what other kids wear anywhere. Not my business, not my problem. But for my kids, no, we don't go out of the house in pyjamas.

 

I think I require more structure than some people here. We also eat all meals at the table, sitting down together. There's no grazing. I have expectations of behavior in certain situations. One is being dressed when we leave the house. Whatevs, it's how we roll. The OP asked, and I'm giving her my answer. If it seems too strict for you, so be it. So far I've never had any power struggles over clothing with my children.

 



I'm sorry but just because I let my son out in his jammies doesn't mean I don't have structure in my house, it doesn't mean we don't have rules in our house.  We too eat all our meals at the table.  I just believe in letting kids and adults express themselves the way they want to as long as its not hurting anyone. 

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I'm sorry but just because I let my son out in his jammies doesn't mean I don't have structure in my house, it doesn't mean we don't have rules in our house.  We too eat all our meals at the table.  I just believe in letting kids and adults express themselves the way they want to as long as its not hurting anyone. 


I don't think the original poster was looking to offend or imply that one who does allow a child to go in jammies has no structure, rather, she was just stating that she requires *more* structure. Some people just have a different routine, and the day can't get going without a certain thing happening.

 

I have to do a certain level of housecleaning in the AM. Just the way it is. If it doesn't happen then, it's hard for me to get motivated to do other things, and harder for me to relax and be able to play later on. Some ppl in the world prob thing it's silly, but i can't relax if my house isn't at a certain level of order. I find that if I keep to that routine, than it doesn't get out of hand, either.

post #116 of 190


I would not pick that battle. From what I've observed there does not seem a dresscode for going to a store. I don't see a difference between pjs and sweatpants. And especially a toddler - who cares what kids wear? They should be comfortable so they can run around!

 

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Can I ask why all of you said as long as she wore shoes? My toddler barely ever wears shoes..

 

I have the same question. No one seems to have answered that yet?

 

post #117 of 190
I don't let my kids walk around in public without shoes! I think it's unhygienic and sloppy looking.
post #118 of 190

Re: shoes i think the reason everyone wanted their kids to wear shoes is for maybe safety reasons and the mistaken impression that you have to be wearing shoes in a store.

 

personally my kids never wear shoes unless it's winter time and then only because i make them so their toes stay attached to their feet. footie jammies have those anti slip things and cover the feet just as much as my cute little moccasins the kids wear so i don't care if they have shows on.

post #119 of 190
Well, in regards to shoes in stores I would be worried about my kid stepping on glass or nasty-yuck. I worked at a grocery store for many years and after seeing all the stuff that ends up on a floor therein (and the store I worked at had carpeted aisles grossedout.gif) I will not let my kid in a store without shoes.

Besides I like shoes lol.gif.
post #120 of 190
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I would not pick that battle. From what I've observed there does not seem a dresscode for going to a store. I don't see a difference between pjs and sweatpants. And especially a toddler - who cares what kids wear? They should be comfortable so they can run around!

 

 

I have the same question. No one seems to have answered that yet?

 

 

You can keep your yard safe, but once you venture onto public property the risk of glass, nails, other items that are exceedingly unpleasant to step on increases exponentially. It's not so much that I want him to wear shoes, as it is I want him to not have to go to the hospital and get stitches and a tetanus shot.
 

 

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